Characterized by faster heart beat rate, heavy/quick breathing and genital muscle contractions, orgasm is what every sexually man and woman looks forward to during sexual intercourse. It is a state that is often referred to as climaxing or coming. Orgasm itself is the pleasurable release of what is commonly referred to as sexual tension that has been building up right from when one plans to engage in sexual intercourse. While women can attain orgasm multiple times in one sexual session, men often need some time to calm down to recover soon after ejaculation.
Although it is what you expect during sexual intercourse, it may not necessarily happen. In any case, climaxing does not mean that you have enjoyed intercourse. You can enjoy sex by simply exploring your partner’s body, kissing, undressing your partner and taking bath together among other ways. There are indeed some men and women who attain orgasm when their partners touch their skin! You however need to note that failure to attain orgasm in several sex sessions in different days may be a sign of poor sexual health, which may make it necessary to consult your physician.
Ability to attain climax during sexual intercourse is directly linked to your sexual health. While a poor sexual health hinders you from climaxing, good sexual health enhances your chances of climaxing. There are a number of sexual health issues and associated issues that can easily affect your ability to climax during sex intercourse and they are better looked at differently in women and men.
In Women
A number of issues that hinder women from reaching climax during sex intercourse include;
- Insufficient sexual stimulation prior to intercourse
- Worries about her own sexual performance
- Mood disorders
- Poor physical health
- Fear of sexual intercourse due to a past negative sexual experience
- Relationship problems and issues
- Poor diet (routine)
- Anxiety
In Men
Although majority of men do attain orgasm (ejaculation) during sexual intercourse, there are some who never experience the pleasurable moment. This can be because of several sexual health issues;
Erectile dysfunction problems (impotence, retarded ejaculation and retrograde ejaculation)
- Long-term use of antidepressant medications
- Excess consumption of alcohol
- Poor physical health
- Poor diet (routine)
- Anxiety
- High stress level
- Worries of own sexual performance
- Traumatic sexual experience in the past
- Obesity
- Excess smoking
Unlike in the past when lack of orgasm was not a major medical issue, cases of men and women consulting their physicians for lack of the same have continued to increase. The increase of such cases can easily be attributed to the above indicated possible causes. You may need to realize that climaxing is not only a sign of better sexual health; it is also the fulfilment of sexual satisfaction. It is not therefore surprising that some sexual relationships including marriage relationships have broken up simply because a partner does not satisfy the sexual need of his/her partner.