Do you often wonder what relevance sex has to relationships? Do you often wonder why we are asked to make our partners wait before having sex? Do you shudder at the idea of having sex with someone and it turns out and becomes a serious relationship?
Well these are some of the many questions mostly women ask themselves when they deliberate upon having sex or not having sex with someone. These are questions that have specific answers depending on the relationship status.
Thankfully below are a few tips that will help either gender answer the above questions and more…
The New Age
The first thing you should comprehend is the way times have changed. Nowadays having sex doesn’t automatically mean that you are now destined to get hitched and now you’ll spend a lifetime with the person you sleep with.
If you opt to wait till marriage to have sex, this is nowadays a sole decision and not one made by the society. It can be a good and at times bad decision. For one having sex too soon will ruin a relationship and at times it can be the beginning of a relationship where one wasn’t wanted.
The best thing to do before you engage in sexual activity is setting boundaries and discussing with your partner what significant meaning there is to having sex. For a majority of men, sex and relationships are two separate issues and one is not really dependent on the other’s presence.
That said however; it’s necessary that you talk with your partner about the decision to wait and just because you have decided to sleep with him doesn’t automatically qualify the two of you to start a relationship.
The decision to wait before having sex can at times be a good decision because you will be able to gauge whether your partner is coming into a relationship for you and not from the thing he stands to achieve from you.
However, it doesn’t mean that you should wait till you get married. It only means that you should withhold sex until when you feel comfortable and most secure about the relationship of you are looking to have.
Guys are different and for some, women who start having sex too early in the relationship are women they don’t want to be in a relationship with for the rest of their lives. Why? Simply because the guy will believe that you were too easy and thus this disqualifies you from being wife or mother material.
By waiting to sleep with him it shows him that you have self-respect and you value sex as a big step and a huge decision that needs proper evaluation. Whether or not this is always true, this is how most men feel towards sex!
But on the other hand waiting for too long will make him lose interest some people believe, if a lady or a man is true to you and is committed to a relationship the sex will not only be frequent but enticing and there will be an emotional connection.