Difficulties in reaching orgasm are called orgasmic dysfunction. This usually means that we cannot experience orgasm at all or we need very long time in order to achieve it. This condition has different symptoms and causes in men and women. When it comes to men, this usually means that they will ejaculate early; this of course prevents normal sexual intercourse. This term can also be used for situations when our orgasms are not that intensive and powerful like they used to be or when orgasms are accompanied by pain. Male and female orgasmic disorders have some similarities but they are very different in certain aspects.
Let’s start with orgasmic disorders in women. Orgasms experienced by women have been an interesting subject for years. Although in the past male orgasm was more important because of the ability to allow fertilization and reproduction, female orgasm was explored because it was thought that it can help with conception. Another fact about female orgasm is that women are usually less aware of their bodies, they don’t explore it when they are younger like many men do and that’s why they usually have troubles finding out what turns them on and what can lead them to real orgasm. The erogenous zones, like the clitoris or the well known G spot, are more hidden and women must make some efforts in order to find them and stimulate them. However, when we talk about orgasmic dysfunction in women, that doesn’t mean that the woman and her partner don’t stimulate the erogenous zone right, it means that despite all the efforts she can’t reach orgasm. This is called anorgasmia and it means that the woman has never experienced orgasm or that she can experience orgasm only with masturbation but not with her partner. The causes of all types of anorgasmia are mostly of psychological nature and rarely physical. They can be linked with negative experiences with sexuality and they can be solved with self-exploration of the body and better communication with the partner.
When it comes to male orgasmic dysfunctions, we should point out that these dysfunctions come in two types. The first one is when the man can’t reach orgasm despite the long stimulation and the second one is when he is experiencing early orgasms. This means that ejaculation occurred very early and made further sexual intercourse impossible. Some experts divide premature ejaculation in two groups – primary and secondary. The primary is a problem that lasts for the whole life while the secondary develops at some point in the life because of various reasons. Whatever the reason is this premature ejaculation or having trouble reaching orgasm affects men even more seriously because they feel less manly. However, in some cases inability to reach orgasm comes as a result of taking certain medications, overstimulation and other physical and psychological factors that can be solved. In these cases removing the factors will solve the problem immediately.
It is good for both women and men to try to figure out what might be the cause for their orgasmic dysfunction. If the cause is some physical disorder, consulting a doctor is a must.