Many men are face with a dilemma of fantasizing about another woman as they make love to their wives. To give you satisfactory answers, rather than focus on the good, bad, right or wrong, let’s explore an entirely different approach since it’s not up to us to decide what really works of doesn’t work for your relationship.
The honest and brutal truth is, a majority of men and women involved in a relationship in some point or another use some sort of foreign fantasy when they are having sex or masturbating. The question here is, if it’s common and quite natural to be attracted to a number of people so why would your fantasies be any different?
It’s been proven that variety plays a crucial role by helping couples boost their sexual relationships. Fantasy is basically another type of variety though mental. That said however; for a majority of us, the thought of their partner thinking about another person can spark up anger, insecurities as well as jealousy.
So does this make fantasizing wrong? Many may say it is a wrong move, however fantasy is a healthy move. Fantasizing makes it possible for our imagination and creativity to blend perfectly with arousal and sexual expression.
For some of us, fantasy is a mature and safe way of exploring outside our relationships without doing the actual cheating. But many argue that fantasy is still a form of cheating but that’s their opinion and everyone is entitled to their own opinions.
The society of yesterday as well as today has created a world in which we feel very uncomfortable and overly guilty about a lot of sexual thoughts and ideas that our mental mind explores.
Fantasies Are Unique
Your fantasies are unique to you, there is no one who can take away your mind’s ability to picture stimulating pictures. So who on earth has been granted the permission to try and regulate they partner’s imagery?
Is it written that our fantasies need only to focus on our partners? If you concentrate on these types of questions, you will end up feeling guilty as you think about these images in the first place. It is critical that you thoroughly examine yourself as well as your relationship to gauge whether you are both happy and attracted to your partner, these are the tools that will let you know why you are fantasizing about other people when engaged in coitus.
Again there might be nothing wrong and you are blessed with a mind which loves the idea of various fantasies. The best thing you should do is leave your insecurities at the door and allow your partner to fantasize about what they want and use the fantasy to enjoy a better sexual session.