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How To Prevent Premature Orgasm?

Many men have experienced this embarrassing situation when they reach orgasm before their partner. Although this is not necessarily a bad thing there are few thing that can help men prevent premature orgasm and extend the sexual act. In another word, premature orgasm is commonly call as premature ejaculation.

Just like women, men find some sex positions more exciting than others. This means that in certain positions they are able to reach orgasm very fast. Of course, this doesn’t mean that the position that his favorite for a certain man is necessarily the position in which he will have the most trouble to prevent premature orgasm. According to many experts, men usually have trouble stopping their orgasm when a woman is on top of them, because she is able to completely control the depth and the rhythm of penetration which means that men have absolutely no control over their orgasm. The only thing that a man can do in situations like these is to ask or make some other signal so the woman can stop. A better option for those who deal with premature orgasm is to take their partner and place her in the position that suits them best – a position in which they are in control. Although many women like to be on top, don’t be afraid of her reaction because women also like changes. Of course, be careful that these changes don’t take place right before she reaches an orgasm. Men, who know well their partners, usually know when their partners are getting near to an orgasm so they can easily synch with their orgasm. They can simply intensify the sex act when they are near an orgasm and perform the movements that arouse the partner so they can experience a simultaneous orgasm.

If you are looking for a change, you should certainly try the classical doggie style. In this position the woman crouches on all fours (hands and knees) while the man is on his knees behind her and has complete control of the sex act. This is most certainly the best way to delay your orgasm. This position requires more energy and activity and unlike the position where the woman is on top of you, you won’t be able to reach an orgasm so quickly.  Many men think that they cannot postpone their orgasm and they hurry to finish once they feel they are reaching an orgasm. That’s wrong and you should know that if you are enjoying the sexual intercourse at the moment you should slow down a little bit and continue when you feel like you are ready to intensify the activity again. Keep in mind that the sex act is perfect only when the two partners participating in it reach an orgasm.

Another sex position that is very popular is the so-called missionary position because the partners are very close to each other. But this closeness can also bring trouble to some men because the constant kissing and the pressure that they feel from the vagina can make them reach orgasm in a record time. Placing the hands under their bodies can help men lower the pressure and postpone their orgasm.

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Anejaculation – definition and treatment

Orgasm in men is accompanied with release of semen. For many men sex act without ejaculation is something they can’t imagine and they really enjoy that part of the sex act. Men are very sensitive when it comes to their sperm. They always keep track of its color, smell, in some cases taste, the amount of sperm and even with the power of ejaculation. Every ancient culture was interested in this liquid and they usually paid special attention and gave significance to it. Consequently, weak ejaculation or inability of ejaculation was considered as a weakness and loss of manhood. As you can see sperm has played a significant role even before scientists in the second half of the 18th century were able to prove that sperm actually fertilizes eggs. The prejudices that men have about their sperm causes a lot of problems even today. These prejudices and misconceptions are often boosted by movies with pornographic content in which usually men have incredibly strong ejaculations.

Anejaculation is a term used to describe the inability of sperm secretion. This situation can be caused by both physical and mental difficulties. In these cases a man produces quality sperm but this sperm is unable to leave the penis. This means that the man suffering from anejaculation is not sterile. Furthermore, in most of the cases of anejaculation men have the ability to achieve orgasm.

When it comes to physical causes of anejaculation in most cases the reason is neurological damages. Another reason that is often causing problems like these is diabetes.

Anejaculation caused by mental causes is a little bit different. In most cases psychological anejaculation is accompanied with inability to have orgasm. This type of anejaculation can be temporal or occasional. Occasional, means that a man can ejaculate in some situations while in others he is completely unable to ejaculate. These cases usually occur because of some specific situations or because of the partner with whom the man has sex. The best way to check if the anejaculation is happening because of certain situations is by performing masturbation. Usually men don’t have any problems ejaculating while they masturbate but they can’t ejaculate when they are having actual sexual intercourse. In many cases relaxation can affect very positively on occasional anejaculation. When we talk about complete anejaculation it is important to understand that the men suffering from this type of anejaculation can’t ejaculate while they are awake, but they ejaculate at night while they are sleeping. This type of anejaculation has some deep roots and the best option for people that are suffering from it is to visit a doctor, possibly a psychiatrist.

In order to properly treat anejaculation you should first determine the source that is causing it. Only when the right cause is determined the treatment can begin. Some of the methods of treatment include – psychotherapies, drugs and electro treatment. Of course, when the cause of anejaculation is some physical injury visiting a therapist or undergoing a surgery is the best option.

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Nocturnal Ejaculation

Orgasm during sleep is often linked with teenagers but the truth is that this happens in older men too. There are few reasons for this interesting phenomenon.

When a child becomes a sexually mature person, he often begins to dream about so-called sexual fantasies/dreams. These fantasies are also called wet dreams and they are usually caused by daily experiences. The reasons can be various – a short erotic scene from a movie, a beautiful classmate, some attractive celebrity and even erotic literature. These things usually happen to teenagers that haven’t experienced sexual intercourse yet or teenagers who haven’t masturbated yet. This is a completely natural teenage phenomenon that can occur in some teenagers and it is not a reason for being worried. Nocturnal ejaculations usually start around the age of 14. In rare cases, children that are twelve or thirteen years old can experience these nocturnal ejaculations too. Of course many male teenagers never experience this phenomenon. It’s good to know that this is happening randomly and there are no rules about it. Parents should remember that there is nothing wrong about nocturnal ejaculation.

So, how exactly these wet dreams that cause nocturnal ejaculation look like? These are dreams in which men dream about certain sights, events and happenings that they link with their sexual desires. While they are awake all these desires are pushed into the subconscious. Some experts say that men push these desires because they are afraid or ashamed of them and that’s the reason why they are so realistic in the dreams. It looks like a good psychiatrist like Freud could explain all these things. This legendary scientist linked all dreams with sexuality, especially when it came to the so-called hidden sexual dreams that contain various sexual symbols. According to him, female genitals often occur in the shape of vase, box, room or gardens while male genitals in the form of dagger, snake, stick while the sexual act can appear as a ride with a car or something similar. All these hidden sexual symbols can tell a lot about the person that is dreaming but that’s another topic.

What is interesting about nocturnal ejaculation is that this phenomenon can happen in older men too. It is usually happening in men that irregularly satisfy their sexual needs or this may be a reflection of their inability to satisfy some strong sexual desire because they are afraid or unable to do it. In many cases we are talking about certain sexual deviation that is not acceptable for the society but the individual still fantasizes about it. These dreams that cause nocturnal ejaculation can be about sexual deviance, perversion and about satisfying sexual desire in an strange, unusual and unacceptable way. Of course these are only some of the cases. The reason might be a simple erotic fantasy that can cause arousal even when we are awake.

Nocturnal ejaculation can be described as a subconscious sexual self-satisfaction that doesn’t affect the male sexual power in the waking state.

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How To Make Your Orgasm Last Longer?

Orgasms are the culmination of the sexual intercourse. Although the whole process of having sex is important, the orgasm is the most important part of the intercourse. According to some studies more than 90% of the people think that the orgasms last very short. But what they don’t know that there are some things that can be very helpful when it comes to having a longer orgasm. All these things and methods have been confirmed by experts so they are working in most cases.

First and foremost, when you start a sexual intercourse you should be relaxed and stress free. Many couples get aroused very fast and they proceed with the sex act very quickly. This can be considered as a first obstacle to reaching long orgasm. Next time you go to bed, try to relax and control yourself and your nervous system especially during the intercourse. With the right attitude you can open some new aspects of the sexual act.

Another thing that can be very helpful is to find out what you really like in sex. This means that over the time you might have developed some routine or maybe the desires of your partner have become your sexual desires too without even thinking about it. As some experts suggest, you should explore your body and find out what gives you the necessary pleasure. Find out which parts of your body are more sensitive and what turns you on. Of course, you should please your partner but don’t forget yourself in that process. Knowing yourself is the main factor for having a strong and long-lasting orgasm.

Although we always say that sex is a natural thing that can’t be “trained” it is always a good idea to learn something about sexual techniques and sex in general. Find out more about male and female bodies and everything that is related to sexuality. The more knowledge you have (the more theoretical knowledge) the more you will enjoy practicing sex. Don’t be afraid to try new and unusual techniques that can certainly spice up the things in your bed.

People often forget about their physical readiness, especially when they are in a long relationship. However, if you want to have strong and longer orgasm you should take care of your body. This means that you should exercise regularly and you should pay special attention to the muscles in the genital area. There are some special exercises for this are that will help you with your orgasm. In this way you will also increase the range of movements which usually means orgasms with better quality.

Good communication is a key to successful relationship. But good communication can be very useful when it comes to longer orgasms too. If you are having good communication with your partner you will feel more pleasant and comfortable with him/her which is one of the main factors for longer orgasm. Communication is useful before, during and after the sex. Words lead to deeper connection which eventually leads to more intense orgasm.

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What Is Vasectomy?

Many men don’t know what vasectomy is and many have heard about it but don’t know exactly how it works. Some of them think that it is a process for complete removal of the testicles; some think that it is a process that will deny the experience that leads to an erection and orgasm while others think about it as a simple removal of manhood. These assumptions are completely wrong. Vasectomy is a medical intervention that permanently ensures men that they won’t be part of any unwanted pregnancy. It is actually a form of contraception that should be taken only when you are sure that you don’t want children. In many countries this procedure can be performed on patients that are older than 30. The procedure is very simple and it is finished only after a few minutes and the good thing is that there are almost no side effects. The surgeon simply redirects, or gets the vas deferens ligated to be more precise, which stops the sperm from leaving the scrotum. Ejaculation during orgasm is still present just like before the surgery but the sperm now doesn’t contain seed that is essential for reproduction.

When a man starts to think about vasectomy it is a little bit different because first of all examinations are a lot more difficult for men compared to women. Women get used to gynecological examinations after their first sexual intercourse or even before. They are not afraid of the examination itself. When it comes to medical procedures of male genitalia the situation is different. Many men don’t even want to talk about it. It is certainly good to know that not every female contraception (designed just for women) brings only positive effects. Hormonal protection (birth control pills) for example can cause a lot of physical complications like migraine, breast cancer etc. while sterilization or intrauterine devices are much more complicated methods compared to vasectomy. Besides that these methods can cause severe inflammation of the womb, discomfort and bleeding during sex and of course unpleasant feeling for the partner. There are cases with intrauterine implants where a man can feel the implant with his penis. In all these cases it is certainly very important to talk about the various options that are available. Condoms are of course the simplest method.

Another not so well known fact is that vasectomy is a reversible process (in 95% of the cases) which is not the case with female sterilization (irreversible process). Of course before any of these two procedures take place the patient should be completely certain that he or she doesn’t want children. Since it is possible for men to change their mind, doctors can perform a procedure that is called vasovasostomy and procedure that can reconnect the seminal vesicles. However this procedure is not always successful and there is a chance that the patient will remain infertile. The process of vasovasostomy is an expensive and difficult and that’s why patients are advised to think about both vasectomy and vasovasostomy carefully.

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Reasons And Treatment Of Painful Sex In Men

According to some statistics, near 15% of women and 5% of men, experience pain during the sexual intercourse. This pain can be caused my many things and these are the most common reasons and ways to treat that pain in men:

1. Peyronie’s Disease

Peyronie’s disease is one of the most common causes of painful intercourse in men. It is easily noticeable because it causes a curvature of the penis which is visible during erection. Some 2% of all men suffer from this disease. Smaller curvature of the penis is normal, but the painful erection can be a clear sign of Peyronie’s disease. Besides curvature, the penis could also appear to be swollen – an occurrence that comes and goes by itself. This unpleasant curvature most often appears because of some damage to the penis during erection. A strong and painful curvature of the penis can cause sharp pain during the intercourse and troubles during penetration. All this can lead to impotence. Peyronie’s disease is treated with injections that are used in cases of arthritis, because this disease is arthritic in its core. In some cases surgical methods are required.

2. Fungal Infection

Fungal infections can cause a constant itchy feeling. The fungus spreads fast if it finds a suitable environment. They develop fast in moisture so avoid wearing sweaty underwear for a longer period and of course keep your hygiene on a high level. These infections can cause very painful sexual intercourse but luckily they can be removed with some home remedies. The best way to do this is to soak and wash your penis and the testicles in chamomile tea and after the procedure make sure to dry the area.

3. Herpes

Herpes can make sex very uncomfortable because it can cause a lot of pain. Besides that herpes can be easily transferred to the partner so try to avoid sex during the treatment. The herpes irritates the skin on the genitalia and it is very hard to cure. Even after it is taken care of it might reoccur.

4. Prostatitis

In this case we are talking about infection or inflammation of the prostate gland, that can cause pain during sex and swelling in the area below the bladder. Pain accompanied with burning sensation can appear during urination and erection. It is still not clear what the direct cause of prostatitis is, but in many cases it is triggered by some bacteria. The clearest sign of prostatitis is frequent urination in small quantities. The pain occurs during and after the sex, especially after the ejaculation. In order to get rid of this disease you have to use antibiotics and drink a lot of water. In rare and more complicated cases prostatitis can be treated with surgery.

5. Inflammation of the urinary tract

In most cases the inflammation occurs in the bladder, which causes painful and frequent urination in small amounts just like in the case of prostatitis. It is caused by bacteria that get inside the body through the urethra. This inflammation should be treated seriously because it can affect the kidneys too and it disrupts the sexual intercourse. Antibiotics are very effective in cases of inflammation and the positive effects can be noticed very quickly.

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What Is A Penis Fracture?

Penis fracture is defined as rapture of the membrane of the bulging cavernous structures of the penis. Luckily this injury is not that often but when it happens it should be treated seriously and it is no wonder why doctors consider it as a emergency situation. This injury happens while the penis is erected.

There are many reasons why penis fracture happens. Unexpected blunt trauma or abrupt bending of the penis while it is erected, can lead to rupture of the membrane that surrounds the cavernous bodies of the penis. The injury might be even worse if both cavernous bodies are broken and the urinary tube too. In most cases this injury happens during the sexual intercourse while the female is on top of her partner. Of course there are other reasons for this injury to happen like masturbation, mechanical injuries or any other shock on an erected penis. In extremely rare cases this injury can happen while sleeping, because unconsciously people can have an erected penis and try to turn around in their sleep.

In order to understand the injury better we should look at the structure of the penis. The penis consists of three parts – root, body and head. All these parts are growing when they are aroused due to increased flow of blood. The penis is innervated by left and right dorsal nerves and pudendal nerves. Blood supply comes from the inner pudendal arteries.

When the penis is not erected there are almost no chances for injury of this kind because of its flexibility. When the penis gets hard erection and its elasticity is much lower. For example, during the transition from normal state to erection, the membrane gets a lot tighter (from 2 mm it goes to 0,25 mm) practically loosing almost all of its flexibility. Due to this thinning and inelasticity, blunt trauma or bending of an erected penis can cause penis injury much easier. A sudden increase in pressure in the corpus cavernosum in these cases can quickly destroy the membrane.

Penis fracture can be easily spotted because it has clear symptoms. Like we have said before, in most cases men get injured when they pull the penis out the vagina during the sexual intercourse while the women are in a dominant position. On the way out the penis can hit the tailbone and this is why penis fracture happens. Penis fracture is always painful but depending on the seriousness of the injury the pain can vary from mild to extremely strong. Penis fracture can be noticed by the appearance of the penis which is usually swollen, deformed, unusually bended and discolored.  Many doctors suggest early surgical intervention for treatment of penis fractures. The patient stays at the hospital for at least 10 days and after that can proceed with the treatment from the comfort of his home. Usually antibiotics and analgesics are prescribed.  The penis should be healthy after a while but erectile dysfunction and penis bending are possible.

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Sex Life And Relationship

It seems that western society is finally letting go of the Augustan, Victorian, and Puritan views over sex and relationships. Some people consider that viewing these aspects of our lives from a different perspective is very healthy while others still consider these subjects taboo or at least private. The truth is that both reactions are normal and logical. On one hand, people should explore their sexuality together with their partners so that they can build up a healthy relationship, and on the other hand sex has lost much of its meaning just because of the fact that it was trivialized.

One thing is clear though: sex is a very important part of a relationship.  If two people decide to start living together as a couple, they need to know how their bodies react to one another. This is the thing that most people call ‘chemistry’. Chemistry refers to actual chemical reactions that happen in the brains of two people who are in love and who want to have sex with each other. Pheromones, serotonin, and endorphin levels, all have an important role to play when choosing a partner. If the reactions are positive, your brain will know at that point that the person in cause will make a good partner.

Of course, there are people who consider that moral and religious values are more important. This is, of course, a choice that nobody should criticize. However, there are a few risks when choosing to go into a relationship with someone without having intercourse with that person before. All the reactions mentioned above could in some cases be negative. Your body will know that that person is not a good match for you. In such cases people can feel very different reactions to that person, most of which are not sexual. This is, if you may, friend zoning in a nutshell.

Whatever the case might be, sex is a very important part of a relationship. Even if some people consider premarital or casual sex something downgrading, it is actually a good way of filtering the potentially good from the potentially bad partners. There have been situations when couples felt very attracted to each other and decided to not have sex; until a certain point and as soon as they had sexual intercourse their relationship just went downhill. Sex and a relationship should go hand in hand. It is better to realize that the person you are dating is not fit for you from the first week or two than to end up waiting. Semi platonic relationships can only last so long. People might have sneered at Dr. Freud’s ideas over sexuality and relationships but it has been proven time and time again that all these sexual repressions in a relationship only lead to bigger problems like sexual dysfunction or deviations, self-esteem issues, and general bitterness.

It might seem like a bit weird advice and it might also contradict my earlier comment on the trivialization of sex, but if one wants to find his or her significant other, sex needs to be part of the plan from the beginning. After all, sex and relationships are almost a tautology.

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Impotence – Constant Fear Of Sexual Dysfunction

Having low self-esteem linked with sexual impotence can truly disturb every man and what is even more frightening is that this unpleasant situation can affect different aspects of their lives. In situations like these failures become something inevitable.

There are many reasons why this is happening and different psychologists have different conclusions. However there are few things that seem to repeat in these cases of impotence among men.

Men tend to equate their masculinity with their sexual power, although masculinity is reflected in many different things not just sexuality. Furthermore they equate their sexual power with erectile power, which allows normal and uninterrupted sexual intercourse with the partner. Men can be manly and impotent at the same time although some of them don’t realize how that is possible. There are many causes why impotence occurs. For example there can be natural causes, when impotence occurs because of sclerotic changes in the blood vessels. Certain neurological diseases can also cause impotence – for example multiple sclerosis. The list is even longer when we add, diabetes, various medical interventions (prostate surgery, aortic surgery, tumors around and on the genitals…), various medications that we consume (antihypertensives , psychopharmaceuticals), on it. Mental disorders are on this list too. For example depression can lower sex drive in addition to impotence. These mental disorders can cause even more problems than some of the medicaments.

There are some side causes that can also affect the appearance of impotence. On the top of this list are bad relationships followed by distancing of the partners, hostility and hatred and even open aggression. Sometimes some unexpected events in our lives can also affect our sexual health. Things like death of a partner, fear from a newly discovered disease. fear of divorce, troubles at work; they can all worsen the situation.

In many cases the cause of sexual impotence is of psychological nature. After a few failures in a row, which might be caused by some unfortunate events, a man can develop fear of failure. This fear is interfering erection and lowers the quality of the sexual intercourse.

In these cases men tries to focus on their own performance instead of focusing on the physical attractiveness of the women they are with. Sometimes these causes have deeper roots which can be traced in the early childhood.

The unstoppable process of aging can also affect the sexual power of men. After the age of 50 erections might not occur as often as previously. Men are usually physiologically strongest in their 20s and after the 40s they slowly begin to lose interest in sex and their levels of testosterone are lowered. In some cases the sex drive is present but the man is not able to achieve erection so easy.

Every case of impotence should be examined separately. Depending on the causes impotence can be treated with drugs, surgery and even with psychotherapy in cases of psychogenic impotence.

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Sex is the Best Ingredient for Sexual Health

Sex and relationship are closely linked. The more you invest in your relationship the better the sex is. Unfortunately this connection also applies when we have troubles in our relationships. That’s why we will try to focus on how we can benefit from quality sex intercourses.

Sex is a powerful tool that can help us solve problems even outside of the bedroom. It is proven that relationship without sex is just empty. When we care and love someone, sexual intercourse is a step further in the process of strengthening the relationship. Sexual health is crucial in a relationship.

When you finally have an established relationship you should know that without good sex you can’t have long-lasting and successful relationship. You should know that in order to have good sexual health you should be ready to spend some time and put some effort. One thing that is extremely important is that your partner is attractive to you. There are few other tips that can help you have better sex and thus a better relationship.

Using a condom is not that bad

The latest research has showed that the biggest problem when it comes to condoms and pleasure is in our mind. The truth is that it only has minimal physical effect. That’s why its usage should not stop you from enjoying sex or reduce the amount of pleasure that you feel. Remember that the pleasure comes from our heads. If you are thinking only about the safety of the condoms or unwanted pregnancy you will certainly lose the moment and won’t feel good. You just need to relax and enjoy, when the time is right you won’t even need a condom.

Don’t underestimate the power of kissing

The feeling when you kiss another person passionately can’t be compared to anything else. It is intensive and very enjoyable. That’s why kissing can’t be separated from sex because it is a great addition and it will definitely spice up your sexual intercourse. Remember to respect your partner’s sexual desire and if he or she is uncomfortable with French kissing, avoid it.

Know your partner

It takes time to get familiar with your partner’s behavior in the bedroom, so if you want to have an unforgettable orgasm that will last long you should work together with your partner. First of all you need to know what turns you on the most and after that you can slowly share that with your partner. Make sure that you know what your partner wants too. You can’t have perfect sex if one of the parties involved feels unsatisfied in the end. Orgasm is good for your sexual health, do you have any idea about it?

Take your time

Many people think that only spontaneous, unplanned sex is good. That’s why you should take your time. A simple thing like a good romantic dinner can lead to a great night filled with great sex. You just need to be relaxed and let it happen. Having sex is not a duty, it is a sexual pleasure and that is something you always have to have on your mind.