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Chronic Illness and Sexuality

Diseases can strongly affect and complicate everyday life and that includes sexuality too. However, sexuality should not be forgotten even when someone is suffering from some chronic illness.

Every chronic illness or pain in general will certainly lower your sexual desire and sexual endurance. If you are recovering from some acute disease you will also notice that your libido is affected. In addition, the medications that you have to take in most cases have negative effect on your sex drive and sexual activity. Furthermore, if you are practicing unhealthy lifestyle you will soon feel the negative effects when it comes to your sexuality. Heavy drinking and smoking for example can lead to erectile problems. Besides physical health, mental health is very important too. Depression for example brings some devastating effects to our self-confidence and ultimately leads to low sexual desire and erectile problems too. Certain health problems cause specific sexual difficulties but the good news is that there is a solution for all those problems.

Diabetes mellitus can cause erectile dysfunction and these difficulties are getting more complicated as the patient grows older. The best advice is to stick to a healthy diet and never miss a meal. This is the best way to postpone possible erectile problems that diabetes brings. Another good advice is to stop worrying too much, because you can develop emotional problems and blockage too. The more you think about your problem the more worried you will get and that doesn’t bring anything good. If you are too worried and you don’t follow the advice from your doctor, you may even completely lose interest in sex.

Erectile problems are very often present before a heart attack and a certain period after a person survives a heart attack. The cause for these erectile problems is the reduced blood flow in the genitalia. The penis needs sufficient blood flow in order to get hard and easily penetrate into the vagina. Those who have survived a heart attack usually face mental problems because of the fear that they can experience another heart attack during the sexual intercourse. This mental pressure is usually present in older men who are trying to have sex with younger women. There is no need to panic because if your doctor has confirmed that you are ready to engage in physical activity again then it is perfectly safe to have sex again. If you are worried that you might get too excited, it’s a good idea to masturbate some time before you have sex. Men who have experienced heart attack should be very careful if they are having sex with a new partner because the whole atmosphere brings a lot more tension.

Those who are suffering from multiple sclerosis should be prepared for erectile problems. They usually have reduced feeling of stimulation and some of them lose the ability of ejaculation. The best thing to do in such case is to stimulate your own erection and continue with the sexual intercourse.

How To Prevent Premature Orgasm?

Many men have experienced this embarrassing situation when they reach orgasm before their partner. Although this is not necessarily a bad thing there are few thing that can help men prevent premature orgasm and extend the sexual act. In another word, premature orgasm is commonly call as premature ejaculation.

Just like women, men find some sex positions more exciting than others. This means that in certain positions they are able to reach orgasm very fast. Of course, this doesn’t mean that the position that his favorite for a certain man is necessarily the position in which he will have the most trouble to prevent premature orgasm. According to many experts, men usually have trouble stopping their orgasm when a woman is on top of them, because she is able to completely control the depth and the rhythm of penetration which means that men have absolutely no control over their orgasm. The only thing that a man can do in situations like these is to ask or make some other signal so the woman can stop. A better option for those who deal with premature orgasm is to take their partner and place her in the position that suits them best – a position in which they are in control. Although many women like to be on top, don’t be afraid of her reaction because women also like changes. Of course, be careful that these changes don’t take place right before she reaches an orgasm. Men, who know well their partners, usually know when their partners are getting near to an orgasm so they can easily synch with their orgasm. They can simply intensify the sex act when they are near an orgasm and perform the movements that arouse the partner so they can experience a simultaneous orgasm.

If you are looking for a change, you should certainly try the classical doggie style. In this position the woman crouches on all fours (hands and knees) while the man is on his knees behind her and has complete control of the sex act. This is most certainly the best way to delay your orgasm. This position requires more energy and activity and unlike the position where the woman is on top of you, you won’t be able to reach an orgasm so quickly.  Many men think that they cannot postpone their orgasm and they hurry to finish once they feel they are reaching an orgasm. That’s wrong and you should know that if you are enjoying the sexual intercourse at the moment you should slow down a little bit and continue when you feel like you are ready to intensify the activity again. Keep in mind that the sex act is perfect only when the two partners participating in it reach an orgasm.

Another sex position that is very popular is the so-called missionary position because the partners are very close to each other. But this closeness can also bring trouble to some men because the constant kissing and the pressure that they feel from the vagina can make them reach orgasm in a record time. Placing the hands under their bodies can help men lower the pressure and postpone their orgasm.

Experts that can help you with your libido

Those who suffer from low libido will be surprised when they learn how many types of experts can help them solve their problem. Difficulties with libido deserve to get the same attention as any other health difficulties that we might have.

General Practitioner (Doctor)

When it comes to problems with libido you must visit your doctor (general practitioner), who can check the regularity of your heart beat and measure your blood pressure in order to determine if there are some signs that you are suffering from health problems. Your doctor should also examine your general physical condition, take note about the different types of medications that you use (if any) and in the end the doctor should discuss about your feelings, relationship with your partner and your general lifestyle. Your mental state is especially important because in many cases depression is the number one factor of low libido. Of course, the physical factors can also cause low sex drive as well as pain during sexual intercourse because they can lead to avoiding these sexual intercourses.

Bioenergetics therapist   

As we’ve concluded before, the problem of libido in men and women can be caused by both mental and physical factors. That’s why a quality bioenergetics therapist can be a good option for those who want to solve this problem. Although many people find this kind of therapy to be a little bit odd, the truth is that these therapies have high level of efficiency. Of course, we are not talking about some uncertified quasi-therapists. You need to find some therapist that has knowledge of alternative medicine and psychotherapy and someone who can apply that knowledge with the help of his experience. A good bioenergetics therapist will tell you if the problem with lack of sex drive is in you or in some external factors. Different therapists use different methods so don’t be surprised if some of them use hands-on, hands-off or some distant methods.

Sexologist

When we talk about sexual difficulties, sexologists act like investigators. There can be many reasons behind the lack of sexual desire like problems with erection, difficulties with reaching orgasm, problems with early ejaculation, problems with late ejaculation, problems with delayed ejaculation and many more. The role of the sexologist is to precisely determine where the problem is. However, many people avoid going to a sexologist and they have different reasons for this avoidance. Some of them find going to a sexologist uncomfortable while some of them don’t take their sexual problems seriously and they hope that the problems will go away by themselves.

Sex Therapist

When the sexologist or the general practitioner determines that the problems with your libido have their root in the mental sphere they can recommend visiting a specialized sex therapist. These therapists focus on discussing the problem with you and your partner. In some cases, individuals have problems in communication with their partner or maybe they have problems with maintaining long relationships and  the therapists is here to find the cause of the problem and solve it.

How can acupuncture improve your sex life?

We have all heard about the health benefits of acupuncture but little is known about the fact that acupuncture can improve sexual life too.

Acupuncture is a well known ancient Chinese method used to improve better blood circulation and balancing your life energy in your body. As Chinese acupuncturist like to say – acupuncture is trying to find the perfect balance between yin and yang (in this case – male and female energies). An experienced acupuncturist can easily determine a possible imbalance in the body and by placing needles in higher energetic lines (called meridians) he can stimulate the flow of the energy throughout the body.

Acupuncture can help a lot of people. For example, pregnant women can benefit a lot from this practice. The body of a pregnant woman is dealing with a lot of changes during this period. Almost every woman is suffering from some kind of problems during this period; some of them can deal with them easily while others find that difficult. Acupuncture can be very helpful when it comes to morning sickness, reducing the pain in the perineum and some experts recommend acupuncture as an alternative method against pain during labor. This comes as a result of the release of the endorphins thanks to the acupuncture. These endorphins serve as a natural remedy against pain. They also encourage positive thoughts and every persona generally feels better thanks to these hormones.

Acupuncture can also be very helpful for those are entering menopause and even andropause. It can be very useful for women that have problems with vaginal dryness and infertility. Men who are suffering from premature ejaculation and impotence can also try this method.

When it comes to sexual health acupuncture is a known remedy for low libido in both men and women. The acupuncturists focus on certain spots on our bodies like the liver or the kidneys in order to solve these problems. This is very logical if we know that these organs are considered as filters for the body and if they are not working properly this situation can affect the whole body including our sexual organs. Even people who are suffering from sex addiction can benefit from acupuncture. As we have mentioned before acupuncture brings back the balance and sex addiction is an obvious case of body imbalance.

But how exactly does acupuncture work when we talk about sex? First of all, it is not recommended to have sex three hours after and three hours before acupuncture session. The effects of acupuncture can be significantly reduced if you are emotionally distracted and also if you have used some drugs or maybe you’ve had too much food and alcohol.

What makes acupuncture great is that there are almost no side effects. In order to avoid the possibility of side effects find an experienced acupuncturist. Besides that, this alternative method of improve your sexual health is that it doesn’t only affect your sexual health but it also improves your overall health.

What Is Orgasmic Dysfunction?

Difficulties in reaching orgasm are called orgasmic dysfunction. This usually means that we cannot experience orgasm at all or we need very long time in order to achieve it. This condition has different symptoms and causes in men and women. When it comes to men, this usually means that they will ejaculate early; this of course prevents normal sexual intercourse. This term can also be used for situations when our orgasms are not that intensive and powerful like they used to be or when orgasms are accompanied by pain. Male and female orgasmic disorders have some similarities but they are very different in certain aspects.

Let’s start with orgasmic disorders in women. Orgasms experienced by women have been an interesting subject for years. Although in the past male orgasm was more important because of the ability to allow fertilization and reproduction, female orgasm was explored because it was thought that it can help with conception. Another fact about female orgasm is that women are usually less aware of their bodies, they don’t explore it when they are younger like many men do and that’s why they usually have troubles finding out what turns them on and what can lead them to real orgasm. The erogenous zones, like the clitoris or the well known G spot, are more hidden and women must make some efforts in order to find them and stimulate them. However, when we talk about orgasmic dysfunction in women, that doesn’t mean that the woman and her partner don’t stimulate the erogenous zone right, it means that despite all the efforts she can’t reach orgasm. This is called anorgasmia and it means that the woman has never experienced orgasm or that she can experience orgasm only with masturbation but not with her partner. The causes of all types of anorgasmia are mostly of psychological nature and rarely physical. They can be linked with negative experiences with sexuality and they can be solved with self-exploration of the body and better communication with the partner.

When it comes to male orgasmic dysfunctions, we should point out that these dysfunctions come in two types. The first one is when the man can’t reach orgasm despite the long stimulation and the second one is when he is experiencing early orgasms. This means that ejaculation occurred very early and made further sexual intercourse impossible. Some experts divide premature ejaculation in two groups – primary and secondary. The primary is a problem that lasts for the whole life while the secondary develops at some point in the life because of various reasons. Whatever the reason is this premature ejaculation or having trouble reaching orgasm affects men even more seriously because they feel less manly. However, in some cases inability to reach orgasm comes as a result of taking certain medications, overstimulation and other physical and psychological factors that can be solved. In these cases removing the factors will solve the problem immediately.

It is good for both women and men to try to figure out what might be the cause for their orgasmic dysfunction. If the cause is some physical disorder, consulting a doctor is a must.

Sex Tips for Lasting Longer in Bed

A clear definition of premature ejaculation is: an act to reach orgasm the instance you penetrate, begin thrusting and you immediately cum without having scheduled or set your mind that you are about to orgasm.

As you will come to learn; every time you are engaging in sexual activity, you need to remember you are the person that is in control and it is only you who is able to plan, monitor and be in a position where you control your orgasm reaching the peak point where you are ready to burst.

 

Lasting Longer

During our teenage days extending to early youth years, our hormones made it very difficult not to get too excited and our excitement was too much that our emotions run amuck. Immediately after reaching the peak point of losing control of our emotions then it’s just a matter of time that we lose the race.

First and foremost, since we have established that emotions make us cum to early, the most critical thing to do here is be in control of our emotions, but this is something that is way much easily said than it gets done. Let’s look at a few ways we can keep our emotions in check and lasting longer in bed.

 

The Pre-Fire

It is common knowledge that a higher percentage of men last longer during sexual intercourse the second time round that we did the first time. If you are a fellow that is able to regain their hard on quickly, the best thing is to take advantage of this point and start off your sexual spree by pre-firing.

Thankfully, pre-firing is something that you can do on your own or with a lady friend. Many that suffering from premature ejaculation have perfected the art of pre-firing before they engage in an encounter with their lady.

For guys that are able to pre-fire without too much effort, as you engage in foreplay it is possible to rub one out as you tune your lady friend and the chance you regain your sexual energy, you will ride her like a horse!

Note: never try rushing or will yourself to reload. The best thing to do is relax, forget about the act and concentrate on entertaining your lady friend and within a very short period of time, things will span out naturally.

 

Condoms A Gift To Manhood

Condoms are a great feature that help many men last longer in bed. That said however, double bagging is a serious no, no. double bagging actually increases premature ejaculation and you will have no need of using them anyway.

Get yourself a numbing lube, however, make sure that the lube goes on the inside of the condom. But this is only a short term solution as it will wear out as soon as you start using it.

The lube will give you a short time solution and bang your lady friend’s brains out, since you will not be aroused. The instance the lube wears off, you will now have the chance to finish.

Dealing with Premature Ejaculation

For once, let us be honest with ourselves (Us men). Out of every ten of us, four of us have to deal with the distasteful subject of premature ejaculation. Like we are all aware (men) our sexual confidence and also our ability to last longer in bed are birds of a feather…

Hence the reason why we are often gripped with fear when our ability of pleasing and pleasuring our ladies in the bedroom is called into question! The less we are able to perform in the bedroom, the more our confidence gets bruised.

To make matters even worse, many fellows still shy off from sexual sessions thanks to the underlying embarrassment of climaxing rather too soon. But as much as premature ejaculation is a problem that is consistently embarrassing to deal with, what many men fail to realize is, that this is a problem that they can easily overcome, and over come naturally!

One of the many reasons why men climax too soon is the way they focus on too much on the time frame that they need to last while having sex. We have a huge problem as men, why you ask? Because we often worry about the fact that it is near impossible for us to last in bed as long as the male actors in a porn movie.

We focus on this problem till we forget that, sex that lasts for a long period of time, can be extremely painful and very uncomfortable for the lady you having the romp with.

The way our beautiful ladies bodies are built is, the lubrication in their vagina at most times dries up when you thrust in and out progressively. So guess the question here is; what is the magical number?  The fortunate thing is, in a majority of the cases, for sex to be considered satisfying, you only need to last as long as a five minute YouTube Clip!

Anywhere between three to five minutes, minus the time you spend on foreplay. To make sure you get your woman to a point where she have sexual satisfaction, heighten her arousal by giving her top end female arousal and reach her sexual fulfilment get away!

Stop Premature Ejaculation

Again, due to our ignorance, a majority of us overlook this very easy strategy and it is an effective strategy that would do wonders to help us stop premature ejaculation. Actually it has been proven that one of the greatest ways of getting rid of Premature Ejaculation Permanently is by laying focus on sensitive as well as enhanced sexual arousal on our female partners first.

You should as well consider giving your lady enough foreplay and in a sensitive way touching her G-spot and most sensitive parts such as the clitoris and augment the chances of her achieving orgasm and orgasm quite first!

Unlike us (the men) women have been built to carry a number of erogenous areas all over her body. Learning where these hotspots are will help you make her become aroused extremely fast. Now pay attention to these hot spots.

Conclusion

Teach yourself how to make your lady friend reach her orgasm before you start making love. The more she climax the more confident you become and the higher your stamina will be boosted. Another trick to help your stop premature ejaculation!

How to deal with low sex drive?

Decrease in sexual desire and sex drive in people who are in a serious relationship can lead to various problems. The causes of reduced sex drive can be a disease, but very often they are a result of seemingly small business, family or psychological problems. The good news is that these problems can be solved relatively easily.

People have been working to increase male libido from the ancient times. Different nations had different methods to achieve greater sex drive. For example, ancient Greeks believed that bull testicles can increase their potency while ancient Romans used various means against impotence including sea food like oysters. Other people used means that were considered to be magical, and although these means might not physically improve their performance it was enough to make a psychological boost and increase sexual desire. Some of these aphrodisiacs included the horns of certain animals, various spells, pickled bugs etc. Since ancient times, people have experimented with different types of food that were considered to be helpful for the libido. Food like truffles, cinnamon, celery, kefir, giner, herbalk teas and other were used regularly. American Indians for example used the plant called Tumer which is now part of many medications that are used to increase potency.

Lack of sexual desire is present in both sexes equally and it surely affects the stability of the relationship in a very negative way. Sexual weakness in men is manifested with diminished erection, delayed or premature erection and overall lack of sexual desire. Women tend to have different type of problems like vaginal dryness, having trouble to achieve sexual arousal and or difficulties with reaching and experiencing orgasm.

So what exactly causes these problems? Causes of problems related to love life can be a variety of diseases like high blood cholesterol, high blood pressure, hormonal disorder, impaired circulation, side effects of certain medications, diabetes and other medical conditions. Furthermore, vices like tobacco, alcohol or drugs can have very negative impact on sexual desire and the sexual power of both women and men. There are few other causes that can produce serious problems with the libido like depression, stress, irregular sleep and insomnia, unhealthy diet, chronic fatigue, improper communication, lack of time, modern lifestyle, busy schedule at the workplace, some serious family problems and similar issues.

Fortunately, if not all, most of these problems that cause lack of sex drive can be reduced and even completely solved. Of course in order to get rid of these problems they should be taken seriously by both partners and they need to have intention to solve those problems. For example, diseases that can cause lack of sex drive can be treated with proper therapies. Problems linked with everyday activities can be solved by better organization of your life and obligations. Trust, love and regular communication will certainly help you deal with sex drive problems.

If your sex drive is reduced because of some serious medical issue or some other very serious problem you should consult an expert. There are a lot of counseling services that will give you directions how to overcome your problems and help you with your sex life.

5 Easy Ways to Help Your Man Prevent Erectile Dysfunction

The aging process causes a lot of changes in the body one of which is increased possibility of erectile dysfunction (ED) in men. ED can manifest itself in different ways including premature ejaculation where your man reaches orgasm when you are not sexually satisfied. This can be just before vaginal penetration or soon after. It can also manifest itself in form of your main failing to attain erection or in case he does, the erection is weak to a point where vaginal penetration becomes impossible.

You definitely will not want to find yourself in the above picture. This is because your man’s sexual health will not only have deteriorated but will continue to deteriorate to a point where sex in your relationship becomes a big issue. Caused by several factors including long-term use of specific medications, excessive alcohol intake, smoking, vascular disease, neurological disease, diabetes, poor diet and prostate-related treatments, ED affects about 75% of men, which makes it very necessary that you help your man prevent it at all costs. This you can do in several easy ways:

  • Walking – Many consider walking as a waste of time, choosing to travel by car even for short distances. They do not realize that walking is a unique form of exercise that has a positive effect on sexual performance. According to a study undertaken at Harvard University, walking for just 30 minutes everyday goes a long way in minimizing the risk of ED by up to 41%. You need to spare some time to take a walk with your man as one effective way of helping him prevent ED. Celebrity trainer David Kirsch, trainer for Kate Upton and Jennifer Lopez also encourage people to do more walking than just cardio, it’s easier to do it on a daily basis.
  • Appropriate diet – The need for appropriate diet for healthy living cannot be understated. A Massachusetts Male Aging Study revealed that a regular diet rich in vegetables, whole grains, fish and fruits minimizes the risk of ED in men. The fact that absorption of vitamin B12 becomes poor as a man ages makes it necessary to ensure that your man consumes a diet composed of foods fortified with vitamin B12. Note that vitamin B12 deficiency in a man’s body easily leads to ED.
  •  Good vascular health – Poor vascular health is a major contributor to occurrence of ED. High cholesterol and triglyceride levels in the blood, high blood pressure and high blood sugar cause damage to arteries in the body, leading to heart attack, stroke and ED among other serious health conditions. It is therefore very important that you encourage your man to go for medical check up to determine levels of the above indicated issues. This is one of the easiest and best help that you can offer your man if you want him to continue maintaining good sexual health in particular.
  • Help your man cut weight – Excess body weight including obesity increases the risk of ED by a big percentage. Obesity causes two health problems that are major causes of ED; diabetes and vascular disease. Excess fat deposits in the body also interferes with smooth production and functioning of sexual hormones, leading to ED. You need to help your man cut down on excess body weight to remain sexually healthy. It is indeed indicated that men with 32-inch waistline stand a lower risk of suffering from erectile dysfunction compared to men with 42-inch and above waistline measurement.
  • Exercise – Like with appropriate diet, the need for regular exercise must be emphasized. Performing exercises helps in burning fat deposits in the body, flushes out toxic substances from the body through sweat in addition to strengthening body muscles. Performing Kegel exercises in particular strengthens pelvic muscles, which goes a long way to improve sexual performance. It is important that you encourage your man to partake in regular exercises including Kegel exercises to prevent erectile dysfunction.

Stay Hard All Night

Yes, we are talking about stay hard all night with your penis. It’s about staying hard for a longer time until your partner are able to achieve orgasm. Continuous studies continue to suggest that over 93% of all men who sleep with women achieve an orgasm way before their women do. That said however, as man if you reach a point where you are able to hold back your orgasm till when your woman reaches her climax you will both achieve harder and much more pleasurable orgasm.

So to help you mover from the overcrowded percentage to the 7% of men who can hold their climax below are a few sex tips that will help you blow your woman’s brains away every time you have sex!!

Stop Focusing on Sensations

Every time you have sex, avoid focusing on the sensations which envelop your genitals, instead focus on the pleasurable feelings running all through your body. The instance you notice that an orgasm is on its way, make a quick action and stop for a minute or minimize your thrusting power.

When you feel the orgasm is coming, get out of her and continue giving her oral pleasure. This will make her go wild and want to enter her more. As you pleasure her orally, you will be calming down your arousal and you will get to a point where you can start pumping her again without arousing the orgasm again.

Repeat this action severally till when you reach a point where you feel like its time you achieved an intense orgasm as well.

Hold Your Orgasm In

When you come close to the ejaculation point it’s quite definite that you will feel involuntary contractions right on the pelvis area. Right before you feel the contractions, make sure that you squeeze the PC muscle and in the process do your best to hold in the ejaculation for the longest time.

Note: The PC muscle is also charged with disrupting urine flow and how many times have you been able to hold your urine for a certain amount of time? Now do the same to your orgasm and ready yourself for the right moment.

Holding it in will help you create a momentum that will burst forth with a lot of might helping you enjoy extreme pleasure when you finally release it!

To be able to hold back your ejaculation, you need to have a strong PC muscle. Unfortunately a high percentage of men have a weak PC muscle by default.

Good News However, it is easy to strengthen the PC muscle, practice kegel exercises and squeeze and hold the PC muscle for 20 seconds before releasing. Do this kegel exercises for five minutes per session as many times as you can throughout the day.

Within a week’s period you will have strengthened the PC muscle and now you’ll be quite confident that you can hold back your orgasm and let her reach hers first.

Did you know…

When you achieve a sensational orgasm, you will turn on your woman too! Seeing you enjoy your orgasm also turns her on and will always look forward to the times the two of you make love!

Exercising your PC muscle is also a natural and effective way to eradicate premature ejaculation and learn how to give your lover wonderful orgasms transforming your love making sessions to nothing but spectacular!