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3 Commonly Asked Questions People Have About Sexual Activity and Pregnancy

Congratulations! You just found out that you’re going to have a baby.  While this should be your happy time, you may have questions about your sex life. Is it okay to have sex while you’re pregnant? Should abstain from having sex for a period of time or the entire pregnancy?

Well, you’ll be delighted to know that your sex life doesn’t have to stop the fun in the sack, so long as your doctor doesn’t advise against. That’s right! You can have sex anytime of the day or night you want.

In fact, unless there is some kind of medical issue you’re suffering with, having sex and experiencing in orgasm while you’re pregnant will not put the baby in danger. The reason is that your body’s amniotic fluid, which envelops around them, protects the baby in the uterus.

If you’ve suffered miscarriages in the past, your doctor may advise you to refrain from sex early on in the pregnancy.  You may also be unable to have sex if you suffer pregnancy-related complications: bleeding, pre-term labor, etc.  It’s imperative that you talk to your doctor to clarify what he/she means when they tell you no sex.

The reason is that each pregnancy-related complication has its own restrictions.

How To Be Comfortable With Sexual Activity While You’re Pregnant?

As you go through the pregnancy trimesters, you may notice that one sexual position doesn’t work near as well as it did before.  Switching positions is common during pregnancy. You may notice that lying on your back makes you feel sick or dizzy after you reach the fourth month in your pregnancy. This stems from the fact that the growing uterus’ weight is pressing on the key blood vessels.

You may also feel drier than normal, meaning you may need the assistance of a water-based lubricant while you have sex.

Pain is not normal during sex. Yes, your uterus is going to contract when you have an orgasm. However, if you notice regular or painful contractions, stop all sexual activity and call the doctor right away. If you notice your water has broken or you see heavy vaginal bleeding, call the physician at once.

Be sure you and your partner talk about how each one feels about sex during pregnancy. Address the concerns you have and how you can best stay comfortable while having intercourse. If you see your partner’s responses to you change, make sure you talk about them. Communication is essential in helping each other understand the desires and feelings of the other partner.

Does Pregnancy Affect Sexual Desires?

Your hormones are going to fluctuate wildly when you’re pregnant. Therefore, how you feel about sex before you were pregnant could be dramatically different afterwards.

For instance, some women who didn’t mind the occasional romp in the bedroom may want to have sex more often during their pregnancy. Some women who were sex maniacs may find they are not as interested in the act after getting pregnant.

It’s not uncommon, in the first trimester, for many women to lose all interests in sex because they’re uncomfortable and drained of energy (tired). This doesn’t affect all women, but it can happen to many of them.

How Can You Keep A Partner Happy When You Don’t Feel or Can’t Have Sex?

If you’ve been told by your doctor to refrain from having sex or limit the amount of sex you have, or you just don’t feel like it, you still need to be intimate with your partner. Intimacy doesn’t just mean having sex – you can express your love and affection in various other manners including but not limited to:

  • Backrubs
  • Foot rubs
  • Candlelight dinners
  • Walks on the peach
  • Walks in the park
  • Movies

Yes, it’s possible your pregnancy will change things in the bedroom, but it doesn’t have to lead to a decline in romance.