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3 Commonly Asked Questions People Have About Sexual Activity and Pregnancy

Congratulations! You just found out that you’re going to have a baby.  While this should be your happy time, you may have questions about your sex life. Is it okay to have sex while you’re pregnant? Should abstain from having sex for a period of time or the entire pregnancy?

Well, you’ll be delighted to know that your sex life doesn’t have to stop the fun in the sack, so long as your doctor doesn’t advise against. That’s right! You can have sex anytime of the day or night you want.

In fact, unless there is some kind of medical issue you’re suffering with, having sex and experiencing in orgasm while you’re pregnant will not put the baby in danger. The reason is that your body’s amniotic fluid, which envelops around them, protects the baby in the uterus.

If you’ve suffered miscarriages in the past, your doctor may advise you to refrain from sex early on in the pregnancy.  You may also be unable to have sex if you suffer pregnancy-related complications: bleeding, pre-term labor, etc.  It’s imperative that you talk to your doctor to clarify what he/she means when they tell you no sex.

  • Does it mean no penetration?
  • Does it mean no orgasms?
  • Does it mean no sexual arousal?

The reason is that each pregnancy-related complication has its own restrictions.

 

How To Be Comfortable With Sexual Activity While You’re Pregnant?

As you go through the pregnancy trimesters, you may notice that one sexual position doesn’t work near as well as it did before.  Switching positions is common during pregnancy. You may notice that lying on your back makes you feel sick or dizzy after you reach the fourth month in your pregnancy. This stems from the fact that the growing uterus’ weight is pressing on the key blood vessels.

You may also feel drier than normal, meaning you may need the assistance of a water-based lubricant while you have sex.

Pain is not normal during sex. Yes, your uterus is going to contract when you have an orgasm. However, if you notice regular or painful contractions, stop all sexual activity and call the doctor right away. If you notice your water has broken or you see heavy vaginal bleeding, call the physician at once.

Be sure you and your partner talk about how each one feels about sex during pregnancy. Address the concerns you have and how you can best stay comfortable while having intercourse. If you see your partner’s responses to you change, make sure you talk about them. Communication is essential in helping each other understand the desires and feelings of the other partner.

 

Does Pregnancy Affect Sexual Desires?

Your hormones are going to fluctuate wildly when you’re pregnant. Therefore, how you feel about sex before you were pregnant could be dramatically different afterwards.

For instance, some women who didn’t mind the occasional romp in the bedroom may want to have sex more often during their pregnancy. Some women who were sex maniacs may find they are not as interested in the act after getting pregnant.

It’s not uncommon, in the first trimester, for many women to lose all interests in sex because they’re uncomfortable and drained of energy (tired). This doesn’t affect all women, but it can happen to many of them.

 

How Can You Keep A Partner Happy When You Don’t Feel or Can’t Have Sex?

If you’ve been told by your doctor to refrain from having sex or limit the amount of sex you have, or you just don’t feel like it, you still need to be intimate with your partner. Intimacy doesn’t just mean having sex – you can express your love and affection in various other manners including but not limited to:

  • Backrubs
  • Foot rubs
  • Candlelight dinners
  • Walks on the peach
  • Walks in the park
  • Movies

 

Yes, it’s possible your pregnancy will change things in the bedroom, but it doesn’t have to lead to a decline in romance.

The Concept of Sexual Techniques

The importance of reproduction as an essential ingredient of sex makes every person have a certain level of sexual techniques from the day that person was born. In order to produce some item you will need to learn some techniques before you create it, but when it comes to sex you don’t need to earn anything and the result will still come! However, the way to get the best result can be eased if the partners know each other and if they’ve been working on their social and sexual skills.

Mastering your verbal skills and using the right words in the right moment, using sighs and screams when needed, mastering eye contact, better knowledge of your own body and the body of your partner (especially the arousal zones) and adapting the right positions depending on your height and weight are all part of the concept of sexual techniques.

Sexology literature is full with books that try to create how-to guides for sexual pleasure. Most often in this type of books, we can read about sexual techniques that can drive people “crazy” of course if they are properly performed. If we judge only by the content of these books, we might think that there are few buttons on our bodies that wait to be pressed and we will get an instant unforgettable orgasm. But this is not the way things work.

Extending the time for foreplay can create aversion instead of satisfaction for persons that don’t like longer foreplays. A sexual partner that likes strong grip will only laugh and giggle if he/she gets gentle cuddling. Although oral sex is a real pleasure for many people, some consider it to be very perverted and don’t like it at all. Mechanical use of sexual techniques without brining emotions and without knowing or caring what the partner wants can lead to alienating, lack of sexual desire and even avoiding sexual intercourses.

The proper and varied selection of sexual positions takes central place in the mastery of sexual techniques. In this way we can most definitely be sure that over time sex won’t became boring and monotonous. According to some researches there are more than two hundred sex positions.

But to be honest many of them are almost impossible to perform and others require people with acrobatic skills in order to be performed. Practically all these positions can be divided in two simple groups.

Sex couples can perform them in laying, standing or seating position and on the other hand they can be performed with or without eye contact no matter which position they choose. Some couples use two or three positions during their whole life. Others like to make experiments. The most common sexual position is the so-called “Missionary position” – in which the man is over the woman.

However this position is often combined with positions where the woman is on top. It is up to the couple to decide which technique suits them best, depending on their height, weight, current state (pregnancy) or overall sexual pleasure that they feel in certain positions.