Sex after a Traumatic Event

In case you have experienced some really serious events in your life like diseases, child birth or maybe you’ve lost your job it seems that sex is the last thing on your mind. This is quite natural at the first moment but what if this situation remains? Trauma can temporarily shut down the chemical signals that trigger excitement and sexual desire in our body. However, these negative effects are only temporary and there is a way to restore the desire to have sex but they depend on the traumatic event that you have experienced.

Disease

When you are diagnosed with a serious illness, no one expect that you will be ready for intimacy until you are fully recovered. When that day comes, you may not be physically ready and that’s why you need to ask your doctor how long you will feel the consequences of the disease and its treatment. It is very important to talk with your partner and to keep an emotional bond between two of you. In this way you will realize that your relationship is good despite the fact that you miss the sexual excitement at that moment. The most important thing is to completely eliminate the disease. When the doctor says that you are completely healthy you can start working on your libido, especially if the disease is related to your reproductive organs.

Childbirth

You are up all night changing diapers, you have stitches in your intimate area and your system is still recovering from the pregnancy – all these things are big turn off for many women. Besides all the physical changes that women are experiencing in this period they also witness some emotional changes too. They have more responsibilities because they are mothers now. The vagina is a birth channel and the breasts are “tools” for breastfeeding. But despite all these extreme changes, you can find a way to normalize your sexual life too. For many women a simple touch is a good start toward foreplay. Don’t forget to hug your partner, hold your hands together and kiss each other even if you are holding your baby. Once you are ready to leave the baby to a babysitter or someone close to your family try to create time for intimate moments and enjoy the time spent with your partner.

Medications – Sexual health

Medications used in cases of diabetes, depression, blood pressure, heart diseases and other types of diseases can affect your sexual desire (most often in a negative way). If you notice that these changes are radical you can always ask your doctor and find out whether you can blame the medications you are taking. While you are consulting your doctor ask if he knows some other efficient medication that you can use as substitution. If there is no alternative to the medication you are using try to change your sexual practice and find other ways to enjoy sex. You can spice up things by changing sex positions or even use some sex toys.