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Frequency of sexual intercourses

There a lot of people who ask themselves if they are having too much sex or maybe they are having less sexual intercourses then the others. The frequency of sexual intercourses is always good if both partners are satisfied with it. This means that the frequency of sexual intercourse is not something that we should compare with other couples of individuals. Furthermore, you can’t find any strict guidance about how much sex is enough and that is exactly the beauty of sex – we are not following any rules and we should not feel it as some kind of everyday obligation.

However there are some numbers that are considered to be “normal”. The common frequency of sexual intercourse is around two to three times a week. However there are many people who practice sex even more. Some people are guided strictly by their own schedules while others enjoy spontaneous sex. If you are having sex less than two times a week this doesn’t mean that you are doing something wrong. If your partner is happy and you are happy and the whole sexual act is passionate then you don’t need to be worried about anything.  On the other hand if you feel bad about the infrequent sexual intercourses you should talk honestly about that with your partner.

People who practice only vaginal sex should know that they should be prepared to fewer orgasms compared to those who are ready to do some experiments like oral sex, masturbation or different types of sex games, because all these experiments can cause a lot more orgasms. This also means that the second group of people is most likely to have sex more frequently because of the bigger excitement.

You should always be open minded and seek your own sexual combination which depends on your reactions: if only one of you needs more sex, his or her needs can be satisfied with additional techniques and align those needs with your own.

Of course you should be aware that over the years the frequency decreases but there is no age in which you wouldn’t want to surprise yourself in some occasions. That’s why you should not feel miserable because of the frequency of your sexual intercourses and don’t worry if your friends tell you that they are having much more sex than you.

Remember that sex is not a game in which you have to collect points every time you have sex. You must be aware that there can be some periods in your life and in the life of your partner where you won’t feel the need of sex that much. There can be different causes for this situation but that doesn’t mean that you should put pressure on each other. Sexual drive is not something constant and that desire starts to fade with the years.

After all, the frequency of sexual intercourses is usually determined by the level of some chemical processes that take part in our bodies. That’s why, as the years go by, you should pay more attention on building a solid emotional connection with your partner in order to ignite sexual desire between the two of you.