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Something About Female Sexuality – Female Orgasm

Men should take comfort from the facts of female sexuality. It is difficult for most women to orgasm from intercourse alone, and yet amazingly few women ask about lack of orgasm. In addition to the obvious personal embarrassment, likely explanations include:

Not every woman is even interested in sex, either by masturbation or from a sexual relationship. Relatively few women masturbate, and so many women never know what an orgasm is. Some women assume that they orgasm during sex when, in fact, they don’t. Others accept that sex involves pleasing their man rather than looking for their own sexual pleasure.

The irony is that women who ask about lack of orgasm have the confidence to question because they have explored their sexuality more than most women, both with or without a partner. Regardless of her sexual expectations, any woman will offer her partner sex when she feels good about the relationship and loving towards her partner. They are looking for feeling of intimacy instead of orgasm, the cuddling or caress part maybe the best part in whole process of sexual intercourse for her.

After spending a romantic (affectionate and companionable) evening together, sharing emotional intimacy, or even after an emotional movie, a woman can feel amenable to having sex. Women just take longer time to warm up; compare to men, they can heat up in just split second.

However, these stimuli are very different from those she needs to achieve orgasm (sexual fantasies involve explicit eroticism). Unfortunately, Mother Nature does not favour about female orgasm. As long as a woman is amenable to having sex, the job is done!

Emotional intimacy

The film ‘Overboard’ stars Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell, her real-life partner. Goldie plays a spoilt rich young wife who loses her memory and, purely out of revenge, Kurt playing a lowly carpenter pretends that she is married to him, with his four children.

Sexual relationships favor male orgasm, and it is clear that he would have little problem having sex with this woman he hardly knows and even dislikes. It is equally clear that she would consider it out of the question to have sex with a man she cannot remember knowing.

“Men are most comfortable expressing love through sex, through shared activities, through being a good provider, and through just being together…”

Later in the story, they get to know each other and one evening, pretending that it is her birthday, they go out on a date. After dancing, they talk and gaze at the evening sky while romantic music plays. They kiss and, on returning home, ‘make love’ for the first time.

“98 percent of the women… said they would like more verbal closeness with the men they love; they want the men in their lives to talk more about their thoughts, emotions, plans, and to question them about theirs.”

The woman now feels affection for the man and finds him physically attractive. Of course, he always was attractive, but he suddenly appeals because she respects him and cares for him. Perhaps it is as self-evident to women that relationships are about companionship as it is to men that they are about physical intimacy. In fact, both are part of a long-term relationship.

Types of orgasms and their importance

Except for a small number of women, almost every woman can experience clitoral orgasm. But many women wonder if this “rule” applies for vaginal orgasms too.

Many experts are having a dilemma when they are trying to answer the question how women reach orgasm – clitoral or vaginal? One thing is for sure, women that are interested in their clitoris won’t experience the joy that brings vaginal orgasm when they are still virgins. The practice of masturbation only strengthens the belief that the orgasm is actually clitoral in its core. Except for specific cases, every woman can reach orgasm with proper stimulation. Given the fact that every woman can reach clitoral orgasm, it is not a good idea to separate women in two categories – those who can reach clitoral orgasm and those who can reach vaginal orgasm. Without proper orgasm may be sexual dysfunction.

The truth is that some women cannot reach vaginal orgasm along with clitoral orgasm. According to many studies, most women have never experienced vaginal orgasm. However, it is impossible to determine if they would be able to reach it if they have another partner. Since the discovery of the so-called G spot, it is considered that the orgasm that is called vaginal is actually closely linked with the stimulation of the G spot. We have mentioned before that every woman can reach clitoral orgasm, but what about women who have their clitoris removed (due to certain religious beliefs)? They are able to achieve orgasm too and it looks like this is the purest form of vaginal orgasm.

The inability to reach any type of orgasm can be viewed as pathological case. Every woman should be able to reach clitoral orgasm. If she is unable to experience that feeling (no matter who is responsible for that (her partner with his bad approach or she is having some difficulties even when she is masturbating) the fact is that she will be irritated and tensed which surely leads to many problems in the relationship. However, not every woman takes orgasms so seriously. Some of them (mostly because of their sentimental nature) give advantage to cuddling and tenderness before the activities that have pure sexual value. They simply enjoy the sexual intercourse from the beginning to the end without focusing on reaching orgasm. In many cases they are even faking an orgasm in order to please their partners. If you are not able to give your female partner orgasm, you may need some enhance sexual performance.

When we talk about simultaneous orgasms we must admit that this type of orgasms in which both partner reach the peak of the sexual intercourse at the same time can increase the pleasure. This is not a simple task because men need to restrain themselves while women have to find the right position. During the whole sexual intercourse both partners need to be focused and “read” the signals from the other partner. If you are unable to reach simultaneous orgasm don’t be disappointed because other forms of orgasms can be exciting too.

When we talk about orgasms it is good to know that there is a significant difference between male and female orgasms. Orgasms in men last shorter, men usually don’t have problems reaching orgasms and they know only one type of orgasm.