When someone mentions sex we usually think about penetration. However, it is good to know that sex is not limited only to penetration and the only questions is – can you imagine sex without penetration?
Most people understand sex as a contact between male and female genitalia. In other words they equate sex to traditional vaginal sex. This is supposed to be real sex when we talk about the diversity of sex because people always try to find out new sex positions. The rest is considered to be only comfortable additions like solo or mutual masturbation, oral and anal sex and even cyber and phone sex. Even the term foreplay used to describe the period before vaginal sex is “telling” us that the main act is the vaginal sex – that this is the real thing. This human fixation and preoccupation with certain sexual behavior can cause frustrations in many people, because there are periods in every individual’s life when they have decreased interest in that kind of sexual activity. Take long relationships as an example. Sex can become boring and perhaps one of the partners is suffering from depression or some other emotional difficulty or maybe he or she has pains during the sexual intercourse. These situations are especially common in women during pregnancy or after gynecologist surgeries. So, is it possible to have sex during this period? Experts believe that it is possible to have other forms of sex.
For example, touching can arouse anyone, but we see this act as a part of foreplay. But remember the old days when you were a teenager and how you felt when the person you liked touched you. You instantly felt aroused all over your body. Those were the first steps of exploring your body and your partner’s body from its sexual side. This is a sexual technique that can be used in any age. Focus on touching. Kiss, fondle and explore every part of your bodies. Many people use essential oils and body lotions for massage in order to increase the sensation. You will soon find out that the fingers can lead you to equally strong orgasms.
Many people forget how sexy words can be. There are a lot of people that are aroused when their partner or they whisper in the ear of their partner while some people like to yell and talk dirty things so they can enhance the feeling. Words are actually really strong tool when it comes to sex. If you are unable to have sex (due to injury or maybe because you are separated) words can easily make you reach orgasm.
Verbal communication is only one type of communication. People can communicate even without talking or touching. People usually feel when their partner is angry, happy, anxious or relaxed just by sitting next to him or her. It takes just a simple look in their eyes to find out how they feel. Sometimes, staring at each other can cause rush of hormones that can lead to strong orgasm. Mix this staring with touching and talking and you will be able to reach powerful orgasm without penetration.
Many men have experienced this embarrassing situation when they reach orgasm before their partner. Although this is not necessarily a bad thing there are few thing that can help men prevent premature orgasm and extend the sexual act. In another word, premature orgasm is commonly call as premature ejaculation.
Just like women, men find some sex positions more exciting than others. This means that in certain positions they are able to reach orgasm very fast. Of course, this doesn’t mean that the position that his favorite for a certain man is necessarily the position in which he will have the most trouble to prevent premature orgasm. According to many experts, men usually have trouble stopping their orgasm when a woman is on top of them, because she is able to completely control the depth and the rhythm of penetration which means that men have absolutely no control over their orgasm. The only thing that a man can do in situations like these is to ask or make some other signal so the woman can stop. A better option for those who deal with premature orgasm is to take their partner and place her in the position that suits them best – a position in which they are in control. Although many women like to be on top, don’t be afraid of her reaction because women also like changes. Of course, be careful that these changes don’t take place right before she reaches an orgasm. Men, who know well their partners, usually know when their partners are getting near to an orgasm so they can easily synch with their orgasm. They can simply intensify the sex act when they are near an orgasm and perform the movements that arouse the partner so they can experience a simultaneous orgasm.
If you are looking for a change, you should certainly try the classical doggie style. In this position the woman crouches on all fours (hands and knees) while the man is on his knees behind her and has complete control of the sex act. This is most certainly the best way to delay your orgasm. This position requires more energy and activity and unlike the position where the woman is on top of you, you won’t be able to reach an orgasm so quickly. Many men think that they cannot postpone their orgasm and they hurry to finish once they feel they are reaching an orgasm. That’s wrong and you should know that if you are enjoying the sexual intercourse at the moment you should slow down a little bit and continue when you feel like you are ready to intensify the activity again. Keep in mind that the sex act is perfect only when the two partners participating in it reach an orgasm.
Another sex position that is very popular is the so-called missionary position because the partners are very close to each other. But this closeness can also bring trouble to some men because the constant kissing and the pressure that they feel from the vagina can make them reach orgasm in a record time. Placing the hands under their bodies can help men lower the pressure and postpone their orgasm.