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Sexual behavior: What’s normal, what’s not

A large number of sexologists consider that the problem of the normal as compared to the abnormal sexual behavior is actually rhetoric in its essence. These experts assume that normal in sex is whatever suits a sex couple the best, what makes them satisfied and everything that fits into their specific system of sexual values. Oral sex is therefore a completely normal behavior for a couple, but only if both partners enjoy oral sex. As long as there is respect and responsibility in the sexual relationship, everything is perfectly fine.

However, it is not normal when one of the partners in the relationship does not do this for their own pleasure, but only because of the pressure created by the partner and the fear of rejection. This view applies equally to anal sex, bondage during sex activities, mutual masturbation, the use of obscene words, sex in unusual places, positions and circumstances and all the stunts that have a taste of something that is out of the ordinary. Mutual masturbation may be one of the best sexual stimulation. Don’t you think that female masturbation is very sexy?

Love and sexuality

Another group of sexologists advocates the importance of love as a measure of normality in the relationship between two adult partners. According to these authors, normal sexuality is a sexuality in which one person transmits messages of love, attachment, belonging and warmth to the other partner through sex.

Neurotic sexuality

Neurotic or abnormal sexuality, on the other hand, is sexuality in which sex is used as a discharger of accumulated dissatisfaction, aggression and the need to command, which aims at self-assertion or simply as a way in which individuals release their everyday tensions. Normal sexual person makes love periodically, only when they are eroticized by the presence of the person they love and at the same time they take the same amount of pleasure as they actually provide pleasure to their partner.

This viewpoint shows some logical weakness. First of all, there are practically no people who are absolutely free from tensions. Stress, aggressive impulses and feeling of guilt and every individual uses sex to empty these feelings from time to time. On the other hand, a small number of people who view themselves as completed persons and don’t need to prove themselves in the bed. In addition, there are individuals who have sex regardless of the presence or absence of the feeling of love. So, is it possible to determine what is normal and what is abnormal in sex? Not really. The real question is whether you should burden with this problem. It is certainly better to be abnormal in the bed with your loved one instead being normal alone. Being abnormal or creative for a better sexual health is better than a boring sex life.

Erotic fantasies

According to many studies, sex to a greater extent takes place in the minds of women and men than in bed. It turns out, that people between 18 and 22 years, spend more than 5 hours per day thinking about sex. As they grow older this amount of time is reduced, so people between 28 and 35 think about sex 2 hours a day. So, there is nothing wrong with erotic fantasies as long as the person knows how to separate reality from fantasies.

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Is Sex Without Penetration Possible?

When someone mentions sex we usually think about penetration. However, it is good to know that sex is not limited only to penetration and the only questions is – can you imagine sex without penetration?

Most people understand sex as a contact between male and female genitalia. In other words they equate sex to traditional vaginal sex. This is supposed to be real sex when we talk about the diversity of sex because people always try to find out new sex positions. The rest is considered to be only comfortable additions like solo or mutual masturbation, oral and anal sex and even cyber and phone sex. Even the term foreplay used to describe the period before vaginal sex is “telling” us that the main act is the vaginal sex – that this is the real thing. This human fixation and preoccupation with certain sexual behavior can cause frustrations in many people, because there are periods in every individual’s life when they have decreased interest in that kind of sexual activity. Take long relationships as an example. Sex can become boring and perhaps one of the partners is suffering from depression or some other emotional difficulty or maybe he or she has pains during the sexual intercourse. These situations are especially common in women during pregnancy or after gynecologist surgeries. So, is it possible to have sex during this period? Experts believe that it is possible to have other forms of sex.

For example, touching can arouse anyone, but we see this act as a part of foreplay. But remember the old days when you were a teenager and how you felt when the person you liked touched you. You instantly felt aroused all over your body. Those were the first steps of exploring your body and your partner’s body from its sexual side. This is a sexual technique that can be used in any age. Focus on touching. Kiss, fondle and explore every part of your bodies. Many people use essential oils and body lotions for massage in order to increase the sensation. You will soon find out that the fingers can lead you to equally strong orgasms.

Many people forget how sexy words can be. There are a lot of people that are aroused when their partner or they whisper in the ear of their partner while some people like to yell and talk dirty things so they can enhance the feeling.  Words are actually really strong tool when it comes to sex. If you are unable to have sex (due to injury or maybe because you are separated) words can easily make you reach orgasm.

Verbal communication is only one type of communication. People can communicate even without talking or touching. People usually feel when their partner is angry, happy, anxious or relaxed just by sitting next to him or her. It takes just a simple look in their eyes to find out how they feel. Sometimes, staring at each other can cause rush of hormones that can lead to strong orgasm. Mix this staring with touching and talking and you will be able to reach powerful orgasm without penetration.

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How to Prevent Sexually Transmitted Diseases

The number of young people that have sexually transmitted diseases is rising every day. For example in the USA more than half of those who suffer from some kind of sexually transmitted disease are young people under the age of 25.

There are more than 20 types of diseases that are transmitted by sexual intercourse and there are much more causes that these diseases occur. Some of them are caused by the virus of the genital wards or the human immunodeficiency virus while others are caused by hepatitis and herpes. Very often these diseases are Chlamydia infections, because they are really easily transmitted and often accompanied by other infections.

When we talk about Chlamydia infections it’s good to know that the incubation period of this infection takes one to three weeks. After this period people that are infected can notice whitish discharge from their genitalia. Sometimes it’s very hard to tell what the symptoms of Chlamydia are and the process of treating this infection can be very difficult.  For example men that have developed Chlamydia infection can have problem with their prostate (inflammation) while women can experience pelvic inflammatory disease which can lead to infertility. Therefore it is necessary to be extremely careful and to react as soon as the infection is noticed. This infection is treated successfully with the usage of antibiotics.

Prevention is extremely important when it comes to sexually transmitted diseases because as you can they are very difficult to treat. Some infections are very difficult to notice because they don’t make some significant changes in their host. That’s why we need to be cautious. Sometimes it takes only one sexual contact for transmission of infection. That’s why prevention is very important. Although there are different types of protection for different types of infections, there are some general rules that can apply for all infections and for all people no matter their age, sex or sexual lifestyle.

Prevention is very important and should begin as early as possible. It means that even before young people make their first sexual contact they need to be familiar with these issues. They need to learn about the causes of sexually transmitted infections and the diseases that they cause and the ways to protect if they occur.

The most efficient method that will give 100% effect is abstention from sexual activity. However this option is not practical and probably not even possible. There are however few things that can help the prevention from these infections:

–      Proper choice of a partner. Having sex with people that you know, trust and love will certainly reduce the risk of infection to minimum.

–      Having sex with complete strangers or almost complete strangers with unknown sexual behavior will raise the risk. People that tend to have such contacts are often carriers of various diseases.

–      Having regular medical exams can prevent the appearance of infections.

–      Using condoms will surely increase the level of security. Condoms can prevent transmission of most of the sexually transmitted infections however people should be careful with infections that are transmitted in other ways.

–      Regular showering can also be very useful.

Remember that even if we have taken all measures for prevention sexually transmitted diseases can still occur. That’s why we need to treat them very seriously.