Nipples are present in both men and women. But yet showing women’s nipples in public is considered something morally wrong. Isn’t it a little bit funny when we see a video or image in which the nipples are crossed with black tape? We were all raised by our mothers and most of us were breastfeed so this is a little bit awkward. We all know what’s behind the censored area and we have all had them in our mouth and sucking on them when we were babies.
It is an interesting fact that most women dislike or simply they are not satisfied with the look of their nipples. Some of them think they are too small or too big while some of them think that they are too light or too dark. When they link the appearance of their nipples with the beauty of their breasts in general some women become worried and in extreme cases they feel like they need to go on a surgery and solve the problem.
The truth is that nipples come in different forms – big, small, fat, pointy etc. There are women that have nipples turned inward but that should not be a reason for panic. This occurrence should be gone before the woman gets pregnant and it is almost always gone when she gives birth. The occurrence of milk discharge on the other hand is a clear sign that a woman needs to take care of her hygiene. This discharge is also a common occurrence in women that use birth control pills. If the discharge occurs irregularly you don’t have to go to the doctor because it is usually gone in one week. According to some legends Casanova was such a good lover that he caused women’s breast to produce milk but he was obviously dealing with this type of discharge.
When it comes to nipples and sex excitement it is good to know that the nipples together with the dark ring around them (areola) are the most sensitive part of the breast. But, not all women experience the same intensity of pleasure when they are touched or stimulated in some other way. Nipples tend to swell when the woman is sexually aroused. In some cases, this is not a sign of sexual desire but rather a reaction to the cold weather or excitement in general. That’s why you should not always think about sex when you see that your partner partner’s nipples have a reaction. Some women during puberty or when they take birth control pills notice that long hair grow around the areola. This is not a reason for panicking. This hair has a function but it can be easily removed. This hair is there for the infants that need guidance to reach the breasts. Remember that this is something completely natural and there is nothing to be ashamed of.
All the things we’ve mentioned apply for men too (except for mammary glands). Nipples in men don’t have absolutely any function but they act as an erogenous zones in men too.
Difficulties in reaching orgasm are called orgasmic dysfunction. This usually means that we cannot experience orgasm at all or we need very long time in order to achieve it. This condition has different symptoms and causes in men and women. When it comes to men, this usually means that they will ejaculate early; this of course prevents normal sexual intercourse. This term can also be used for situations when our orgasms are not that intensive and powerful like they used to be or when orgasms are accompanied by pain. Male and female orgasmic disorders have some similarities but they are very different in certain aspects.
Let’s start with orgasmic disorders in women. Orgasms experienced by women have been an interesting subject for years. Although in the past male orgasm was more important because of the ability to allow fertilization and reproduction, female orgasm was explored because it was thought that it can help with conception. Another fact about female orgasm is that women are usually less aware of their bodies, they don’t explore it when they are younger like many men do and that’s why they usually have troubles finding out what turns them on and what can lead them to real orgasm. The erogenous zones, like the clitoris or the well known G spot, are more hidden and women must make some efforts in order to find them and stimulate them. However, when we talk about orgasmic dysfunction in women, that doesn’t mean that the woman and her partner don’t stimulate the erogenous zone right, it means that despite all the efforts she can’t reach orgasm. This is called anorgasmia and it means that the woman has never experienced orgasm or that she can experience orgasm only with masturbation but not with her partner. The causes of all types of anorgasmia are mostly of psychological nature and rarely physical. They can be linked with negative experiences with sexuality and they can be solved with self-exploration of the body and better communication with the partner.
When it comes to male orgasmic dysfunctions, we should point out that these dysfunctions come in two types. The first one is when the man can’t reach orgasm despite the long stimulation and the second one is when he is experiencing early orgasms. This means that ejaculation occurred very early and made further sexual intercourse impossible. Some experts divide premature ejaculation in two groups – primary and secondary. The primary is a problem that lasts for the whole life while the secondary develops at some point in the life because of various reasons. Whatever the reason is this premature ejaculation or having trouble reaching orgasm affects men even more seriously because they feel less manly. However, in some cases inability to reach orgasm comes as a result of taking certain medications, overstimulation and other physical and psychological factors that can be solved. In these cases removing the factors will solve the problem immediately.
It is good for both women and men to try to figure out what might be the cause for their orgasmic dysfunction. If the cause is some physical disorder, consulting a doctor is a must.
According to some researches women need no longer than 20 minutes of manual or oral stimulation until they reach an orgasm.
The secret of orgasm most often lays in finding the right trigger. The muscle contractions that give the well known pleasant feeling can sometime happen spontaneously during the sexual intercourse but in most cases in order to reach the climax women need special atmosphere (ambience light, pleasant music), special body position or some specific technique (like oral stimulation of the clitoris). But even if all these factors are in the game it doesn’t necessarily mean that a perfect orgasm will be achieved.
First of all you have to pay attention to the foreplay. All that kissing, cuddling and exchange of touches activates our nervous system that sends messages about the feeling of pleasure throughout the body. At this point you should feel completely relaxed and devoted to the act without thinking about anything else. The best thing to do is to focus on a certain sense like smell or taste and think only about that.
When you are aroused your nerves carry a message to your brain that says that it is time to increase the blood flow in the erogenous zones and as a result of that the genital area is getting a little bit swollen and moisturized. The more blood in that area the more sensitive you become which results in a real circle of pleasure. Some researchers claim that women need around 10 to 20 minutes of manual or oral stimulation to achieve orgasm. Most of the women try to shorten that period because they think that their partner might not be interested after that. The truth is that men enjoy when their partner is aroused and reaches orgasm.
As we have mentioned before in order to achieve a perfect orgasm the position of the body is very important. Once you feel very aroused it is time for a penetration. While he is on top of you, find a position where the basis of his penis is in the same line with your clitoris and wrap your legs around him. The intercourse is now ready to proceed. Occasional finger stimulation on the clitoris performed by your partner is also an option.
In the moment you reach orgasm your brain releases a wave of oxytocin. This is a neurohormone that passes through the muscles of the pelvis and causes a series of rhythmic contractions that last for few seconds. If you practice Kegel exercises you can make those contractions last longer.
While you are having sex, don’t forget that proper breathing can be very helpful too. Never hold your breath and breathe freely – shallow and rapid breathing will produce more powerful vaginal contractions.
Faking orgasms is not an option. Although it might work sometimes it is better to say that you want some changes instead of faking orgasms. You will make your partner feel like he has found the perfect way to please you and he will try to repeat that procedure every time. The best way is to talk with your partner and find a way to have better sex.