While orgasm is not the only purpose of sex and sexual activity, many women are burdened with the idea that orgasm must necessarily be achieved. This pressure complicates the ability to achieve orgasm in many women. There are many other reasons why orgasm is a real mystery for some women and the following is shortlist of some of these reasons.
- She doesn’t know how to achieve an orgasm
There are many women who never masturbate or they do this only when they are lying on their stomach when the orgasm is affected more by the things that go through their head and less by the mechanical movements (because the hands are actually covered by their stomach). However, if a woman knows and can bring herself to orgasm the cause lays elsewhere which means she should check some of the other factors.
- Her partner is not spontaneous
Unlike men, most women cannot relax immediately when they are with their partner. This is especially the case when the partner is new or when they feel tired for some reason or burdened by all sorts of worries. Instead of fury and fuss followed by words of dissatisfaction, calming the situation always works. Try to lie down next to your partner, hug her passionately and ask her what you can do to help her. If she says that everything is fine and you don’t need to worry then don’t do anything. Once she becomes a little bit relaxed and she realizes that she is perfectly safe in your arms, tell her that you find her very sexy, that you like her and kiss and hug her for some time. It is very important to add more intimacy in your relationship. Try to relax her and help her eliminate the feeling that she has to achieve orgasm.
- She simply cannot relax
Many men or women think that they are successful when it comes to sex only if their female partner reaches orgasm. However, sometimes reaching orgasm is too forced and many women consider their eventual orgasm to be some kind of responsibility. This is why many women pretend to have an orgasm. In this way they try to make the other side feel more capable, better and more comfortable and they should know that this is not a very good idea.
- The partner doesn’t know what he’s doing
Many women consider this to be a big problem, but the truth is that this problem can be easily solved (unlike some of the other problems). If a woman normally manages to achieve orgasm and she can’t achieve orgasm with you, try the following tactics. Make her touch herself in front of you and say that this image really turns you on and that she looks very sexy. After a bit of looking, help her out. You can use your finger to enter the vagina while she is stimulating her clitoris. You can use your tongue to lick her finger used for stimulation. You can try to imitate her movements and ask her if she feels comfortable and does she want more or less touches. In other words, be a part of the game.