Monthly Archives: May 2014

How to Prevent Premature Orgasm?

Many men have experienced this embarrassing situation when they reach orgasm before their partner. Although this is not necessarily a bad thing there are few thing that can help men prevent premature orgasm and extend the sexual act.

Just like women, men find some sex positions more exciting than others. This means that in certain positions they are able to reach orgasm very fast. Of course, this doesn’t mean that the position that his favorite for a certain man is necessarily the position in which he will have the most trouble to prevent premature orgasm. According to many experts, men usually have trouble stopping their orgasm when a woman is on top of them, because she is able to completely control the depth and the rhythm of penetration which means that men have absolutely no control over their orgasm. The only thing that a man can do in situations like these is to ask or make some other signal so the woman can stop. A better option for those who deal with premature orgasm is to take their partner and place her in the position that suits them best – a position in which they are in control. Although many women like to be on top, don’t be afraid of her reaction because women also like changes. Of course, be careful that these changes don’t take place right before she reaches an orgasm. Men, who know well their partners, usually know when their partners are getting near to an orgasm so they can easily synch with their orgasm. They can simply intensify the sex act when they are near an orgasm and perform the movements that arouse the partner so they can experience a simultaneous orgasm.

If you are looking for a change, you should certainly try the classical doggie style. In this position the woman crouches on all fours (hands and knees) while the man is on his knees behind her and has complete control of the sex act. This is most certainly the best way to delay your orgasm. This position requires more energy and activity and unlike the position where the woman is on top of you, you won’t be able to reach an orgasm so quickly.  Many men think that they cannot postpone their orgasm and they hurry to finish once they feel they are reaching an orgasm. That’s wrong and you should know that if you are enjoying the sexual intercourse at the moment you should slow down a little bit and continue when you feel like you are ready to intensify the activity again. Keep in mind that the sex act is perfect only when the two partners participating in it reach an orgasm.

Another sex position that is very popular is the so-called missionary position because the partners are very close to each other. But this closeness can also bring trouble to some men because the constant kissing and the pressure that they feel from the vagina can make them reach orgasm in a record time. Placing the hands under their bodies can help men lower the pressure and postpone their orgasm.

How to Relieve Morning Sickness

Most of the women during pregnancy face an annoying problem called morning sickness. In order to ease these problems you need to know few things about what causes morning sickness.

According to some statistics more than 60% of pregnant women experience morning sickness. And although in most cases this condition occurs during the morning some women can experience it during the day too. It is interesting that the symptoms of morning sickness are manifested only in the first three months of pregnancy and they should be completely gone after that period. Once again, in some cases might have trouble with this issue during the whole pregnancy. Morning sickness is typical for younger women, women who are overweight, those who are pregnant for the first time and those who carry twins or triplets. In rare cases this phenomenon can cause dehydration because of the frequent vomiting and pregnant women might be held in hospital for a while. If you are experiencing frequent sickness, visiting your doctor is a must.

In ancient times people believed that morning sickness appears because the future mother doesn’t have positive feeling about her unborn child or she was worried about some other things. Thanks to the modern medicine we are now sure that the direct cause of the morning sickness is the hormones. During pregnancy, women have to deal with hormonal changes that lead to trouble with processing certain types of food. Besides that, things like fatigue, stress and fear about the future and what will happen next also contribute to the occurrence of morning sickness.

The best thing to relieve the symptoms of morning sickness is to observe it carefully. Try to figure out how your stomach reacts to specific types of food. In this way you will find out which type of food relives the sickness and which type causes problems. Many women say that a piece of toast, cheese or biscuits help them with this problem, but what works for some women doesn’t mean that it will work for others. The food that you consume during pregnancy is extremely important and there are some rules regarding food intake that can affect the appearance of nausea. For example, try to avoid food that is hard to digest. Another thing that you can do is to stop consuming food that is rich in spices and hard for the stomach (for example certain cuisines that are known for the use of spices should be avoided). Instead of having only two or three main meals, try to have 5-6 smaller meals during the day. In this way you will ease the pressure on your stomach. Remember to take plenty of fluids and carbohydrates too.

If you are stressed and you notice that the stress and the pressure has an impact on your condition try to find a way to relax. Avoid stressful situations and use some of the techniques for relaxation like yoga and meditation. Any type of moderate physical activity can be beneficial. Finally, don’t forget to consult with your doctor about everything you do.

Sex Toys and Sexual Health

Many people consider sex toys to be potentially hazardous for our sexual and our general health too. Those who are strictly against sex toys usually point out few things about sex toys and claim that sex toys are not good, that they are not good for our sexual health, sex life and of course that they are not very moral. The truth is that there aren’t really any reasons for this attitude and a lot of experts have proved that sex toys are not dangerous for our health. However, there are some situations in which sex toys can bring potential problems and dangers. After all they are physical products and just like any other product if they are not fulfilling some standards or if they are not used in a proper way they can cause certain problems.

The first concern of those who oppose sex toys is that they can cause physical injuries. However, there is no evidence that regular sex toys can cause this kind of injuries. The injuries might occur if the sex toys are used in an improper way or used for something that they were not intended for. If you are using the sex toy by following instructions there is almost no way to end up injured.

Another concern is that these sex toys are toxic or that they are made of toxic materials to be more precise. This concern is objective because some manufacturers use a material called phthalate to produce various sex toys. This material is very useful because it serves as a softener for the plastic making these toys very flexible. However, these phthalates (plasticizers) can bring negative effects to newborn children especially male newborns and these effects have already been confirmed by many researches. That’s why you should check the materials used for the sex toy and avoid those who have phthalates in them.

We can often read or hear about how using sex toys can lead to practicing unnatural and unsafe sex acts. Furthermore, according to these moralists, people who use sex toys are usually perverts who have odd view on sexuality and sexual relationships and they are prone to violence in sex. This is simply not true and those who say that have a view based on prejudices. Sex toys were used even in ancient times and there was nothing unusual about this practice.

Using sex toys can provide great pleasure but overusing them can bring some problems. If you notice that because of the increased use of sex toys your relationship is starting to fall apart or if you notice that you are getting distant from your partner it is the best time to leave the sex toys for a while. A lot of people that overuse sex toys cannot achieve orgasm without them.

For example, vibrators can cause using the feeling of pleasure in arousal with lower intensity compared to those of the vibrations cause by the vibrator. That’s why you should take pause of using the vibrator every once in a while. Besides these few things that we have mentioned there are no other negative effects of using sex toys. Improve your sexual health may give you and your partner better relationship.

Slowing Down Ejaculation during Sex

When it comes to dealing with sex, most men are a little shy, thankfully, there are a few simple techniques that one can do to avoid an instance where premature ejaculation overrides you coitus session.

The good thing is; these are techniques that we can do by ourselves and we shall be able to learn how to cure premature ejaculation and give our women a ride for a lifetime! Below are two techniques that will electrify your sexual stamina.

 

Controlled Rhythmic Breathing

When you are making love to your lovely lady, most times, there is just very little that you can usually do regarding your heartbeat and also breaking a sweat. Fortunately we have discovered that if you are able to tame your breath, then you can regulate your heartbeat and sweat glands!

The next time you are about to engage in coitus, just gauge the frequency in which you have sex and how deep is your breath every time you penetrate and pull out. When you have the chance figure out the breathing patterns between different arousal intervals.

Breathing correctly is a critical things especially when you are looking to be in control of your excitement at the same time be in a position of holding back your ejaculation.

The correct breathing technique helps you properly understand the stage of excitement you are at and this helps you control the number of breaths you take as well as the length in time you will be able to hold your breath.

 

Awareness of The tension Muscle

We all know that if we become tense during coitus our performance in bed will be affected severely. Tension affects our performance in two ways;

Techniques: there are some techniques that we use in the bedroom that not only make us tense but also hasten ejaculation.

Mental Anxiety: when we are anxious, it will not take long to reach ejaculation and within two minutes or less we are done with the sexual escapade.

Whatever reason may have caused us to suffer from tension, it really pays when we realize the levels of tension and at what intervals we experience the tension as we engage in sexual activity. First and foremost it is important to take note of the muscles that clench at certain arousal stages.

The realization will help you understand the muscles in play when your arousal has hit climax.  If you are looking to put an end to premature ejaculation, you will do all it takes to realize when at certain arousal stages you clench lower back muscles, muscles in the arm and legs as well as chest muscles.

The next step is to try and breathe in deeply and holding your breath during these arousal stages and you will be able to maintain your excitement and this translates to lasting longer in the sack and rocking your lady’s world!

 

Conclusion

Just like everything else we do as men, the above two techniques will take effort and time to yield desirable results. The goo thing is, by continuous practise, you will eventually learn how your body functions and every time you reach a certain sexual peak, you will now be in a position of controlling the stimulation that comes.

Experts that can help you with your libido

Those who are suffering from low libido will be surprised when they learn how many types of experts can help them solve their problem. Difficulties with libido deserve to get the same attention as any other health difficulties that we might have.

General Practitioner (Doctor)

When it comes to problems with libido you must visit your doctor (general practitioner), who can check the regularity of your heart beat and measure your blood pressure in order to determine if there are some signs that you are suffering from health problems. Your doctor should also examine your general physical condition, take note about the different types of medications that you use (if any) and in the end the doctor should discuss about your feelings, relationship with your partner and your general lifestyle. Your mental state is especially important because in many cases depression is the number one factor of low libido. Of course, the physical factors can also cause low sex drive as well as pain during sexual intercourse because they can lead to avoiding these sexual intercourses.

Bioenergetics therapist   

As we’ve concluded before, the problem of libido in men and women can be caused by both mental and physical factors. That’s why a quality bioenergetics therapist can be a good option for those who want to solve this problem. Although many people find this kind of therapy to be a little bit odd, the truth is that these therapies have high level of efficiency. Of course, we are not talking about some uncertified quasi-therapists. You need to find some therapist that has knowledge of alternative medicine and psychotherapy and someone who can apply that knowledge with the help of his experience. A good bioenergetics therapist will tell you if the problem with lack of sex drive is in you or in some external factors. Different therapists use different methods so don’t be surprised if some of them use hands-on, hands-off or some distant methods.

Sexologist

When we talk about sexual difficulties, sexologists act like investigators. There can be many reasons behind the lack of sexual desire like problems with erection, difficulties with reaching orgasm, problems with early ejaculation, problems with late ejaculation, problems with delayed ejaculation and many more. The role of the sexologist is to precisely determine where the problem is. However, many people avoid going to a sexologist and they have different reasons for this avoidance. Some of them find going to a sexologist uncomfortable while some of them don’t take their sexual problems seriously and they hope that the problems will go away by themselves.

Sex Therapist

When the sexologist or the general practitioner determines that the problems with your libido have their root in the mental sphere they can recommend visiting a specialized sex therapist. These therapists focus on discussing the problem with you and your partner. In some cases, individuals have problems in communication with their partner or maybe they have problems with maintaining long relationships and  the therapists is here to find the cause of the problem and solve it.

How can acupuncture improve your sex life?

We have all heard about the health benefits of acupuncture but little is known about the fact that acupuncture can improve our sex lives too.

Acupuncture is a well known ancient Chinese method used to improve better blood circulation and balancing your life energy in your body. As Chinese acupuncturist like to say – acupuncture is trying to find the perfect balance between yin and yang (in this case – male and female energies). An experienced acupuncturist can easily determine a possible imbalance in the body and by placing needles in higher energetic lines (called meridians) he can stimulate the flow of the energy throughout the body.

Acupuncture can help a lot of people. For example, pregnant women can benefit a lot from this practice. The body of a pregnant woman is dealing with a lot of changes during this period. Almost every woman is suffering from some kind of problems during this period; some of them can deal with them easily while others find that difficult. Acupuncture can be very helpful when it comes to morning sickness, reducing the pain in the perineum and some experts recommend acupuncture as an alternative method against pain during labor. This comes as a result of the release of the endorphins thanks to the acupuncture. These endorphins serve as a natural remedy against pain. They also encourage positive thoughts and every persona generally feels better thanks to these hormones.

Acupuncture can also be very helpful for those are entering menopause and even andropause. It can be very useful for women that have problems with vaginal dryness and infertility. Men who are suffering from premature ejaculation and impotence can also try this method.

When it comes to sexual health acupuncture is a known remedy for low libido in both men and women. The acupuncturists focus on certain spots on our bodies like the liver or the kidneys in order to solve these problems. This is very logical if we know that these organs are considered as filters for the body and if they are not working properly this situation can affect the whole body including our sexual organs. Even people who are suffering from sex addiction can benefit from acupuncture. As we have mentioned before acupuncture brings back the balance and sex addiction is an obvious case of body imbalance.

But how exactly does acupuncture work when we talk about sex? First of all, it is not recommended to have sex three hours after and three hours before acupuncture session. The effects of acupuncture can be significantly reduced if you are emotionally distracted and also if you have used some drugs or maybe you’ve had too much food and alcohol.

What makes acupuncture great is that there are almost no side effects. In order to avoid the possibility of side effects find an experienced acupuncturist. Besides that, this alternative method of improving of sexual health is that it doesn’t only affect your sexual health but it also improves your overall health.

Why You Need Good Sexual Health?

Contrary to popular view, sexual health is not restricted to health issues relating to the reproductive system. It is a much wider subject that addresses the mental/emotional, physical and social well-being of each and every individual person. Indeed, World Health Organization (WTO) defines sexual health as “a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality’ it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity”. This definition aptly covers all the issues that address the core of your sexuality; sex.

Sex is no doubt a natural biological necessity that you are bound to engage in once you become sexually mature and responsible. However, it is not enough to merely engage in sex. You need to engage in better sex in order to realize the benefits that the same provides. You may look at better sex as quality sex or enhanced sexual performance where your performance and satisfaction exceeds the performance and satisfaction you derive from what you may call “normal sex”.

From WHO’s definition, it turns out that your mental/emotional, social and physical health must be at their optimum in order to have a quality sex life.

Mental/Emotional Health

Your mental health refers to your level of psychological well-being. It includes such health conditions and disorders as depression, anxiety, stress and mood disorder. These conditions/disorders have a negative effect on your sexual health, which ultimately leads to below “normal” sex performance not only to you but to your partner as well.

Social Health

This refers to your ability to interact with others without any problems. You can easily determine whether or not you have good social health by simply analyzing how well you thrive in social settings. Apart from mental and physical health, your social health is the other vital form of health that contributes to good sexual health and therefore quality sex life.

Physical Health

Physical health refers to your overall physical wellness. Your physical health covers your body as a physical entity, in which case it determines the level of physical activities you can engage in. Poor physical health brought about by diseases and injuries definitely impact negatively on your ability to perform better sex.

The benefits that you derive from engaging in quality sex are simply many. From the onset, quality has been proven to aid in relieving stress, lowering of high blood pressure, boosting your immunity, improving your intimacy, boosting your self-esteem, aiding in quality sleep and in reducing the risk of prostate cancer (in men). Better sex is also a good way of exercising as it strengthens muscles located in the pelvic floor.

There are several factors that determine your level of sexual health for quality sex. They include diseases, health conditions, injuries, diet and lifestyle. Although some diseases and health conditions may be out of your control, you can definitely take measures to prevent injuries that can affect negatively on your physical health. Your diet and lifestyle is also in your control. You seriously need to stick to a healthy diet regime and avoid such unhealthy lifestyle habits as smoking and excess alcohol intake in order to have better sex life.

How can partners match their sex drive?

If you are a sexually active person in a longer relationship you’ve probably had periods when your partner needs to sleep but you want to have sex or vice versa. This situation can last for a longer period and the good thing is that you can try to change it and match with your partner’s sex drive.

Today’s fast paced lifestyle often makes us feel that we have lack of time and energy for sexual intercourses but in the core of this issue there is something else. In many cases people forget the periods when they didn’t have such high sex drive but when they feel like having sex they get really frustrated if their partner refuses them. In those moments many people start to wonder if the sexual tension and desire is gone and the days when they were having sex almost every day are long gone. This is partially true because over time the passion fades but this certainly doesn’t mean that you should forget about passionate sex.

Luckily there is always a solution for problems like these. In most cases you are currently not matched with your partner’s sex drive. This is not an unusual situation and the fact is that you have probably never matched your partner’s sex drive but the feeling of exploring a new partner and the heated hormones were radiating sexuality all the time. After a while the initial enthusiasm gradually disappears and both partners are back to the level of sexuality when they didn’t know each other. On top of that, sexuality often oscillates because of certain everyday obligations, events and mood. Many experienced sexologists are sure that sexual incompatibility is something completely natural in long-term relationships.

Just like any other solution to psychological problems the problem can be resolved by admitting that you have a problem with matching the sex drive. The best thing to do after acknowledging that problem is to have a honest conversation about it. Lack of proper conversation can lead to misinterpretations and serious problems in the relationship.

First and foremost, try to understand that “sex drive” is a term that can be completely different for you and your partner. Every person is different and there are also huge gender differences. Women usually need a number of factors in place in order to start the sex act, while men can start with the intercourse immediately if they are feeling aroused, regardless of the situation. It is also important to understand that sometimes sex drive can be encouraged. So, try to start foreplay or some other simple things like hugging and kissing that can lead to sex. Stress is one of the main reasons for sexual incompatibility and that’s why you should find a way to relieve that stress. Some physical activities or meditation can be very helpful.

All experts in this field agree that improving the relationship through better conversation, shared activities and bonding can solve this problem in most of these cases.

A Guide to Enhanced Sexual Health

Sexuality is an integral part of your life and in particular in your relationship with the opposite sex. Because such relationship issues as love, affection and sexual intimacy determine the strength or weakness of your relationship, it is very necessary that you not only ensure that you have good sexual health but enhance it as well. Whether you are in a marriage relationship or otherwise, you need to take care of your sexual health as one way of preventing impotence.

Impotence is a form of sexual dysfunction. It is actually erectile dysfunction characterized by inability to attain erection necessary for sexual performance. In case of an erection, you do not attain full erection. There are men diagnosed as being impotent in which case they are incapable or can no longer engage in sexual performance as they did before. Although there are several impotent treatment methods, you may not perform sex satisfactorily as you did before.

There are several ways through which you can enhance your sexual health. Some of these include:

Prevention of Diseases

Diseases have the capacity to affect you body to a point that your body organs do not function as is required. There are those diseases that are unique to your reproductive system that must prevent at all costs. This is so because some reproductive system diseases can easily make you impotent if not addressed in good time. Of all diseases that affect the reproductive system, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) or infections are some that can easily cause impotence. They are transmitted through sexual activities involving the penis, vagina, anus and mouth. Some STDs can be transmitted by simply using a towel used by an infected partner. It is therefore very important to prevent development of Diabetes and such STD diseases as human papilloma virus (HPV), Hepatitis B, Gonorrhoea and Syphilis among others.

Exercise

Performing exercises on a regular basis is generally good for your body. Exercising leaves your body muscles toned and eliminates some waste in the body through sweat. Performing Kegel exercises has the positive effect of strengthening your pelvic region and organs therein. This goes a long way in enhancing your sexual health and to degree preventing impotence.

Healthy Lifestyle

Impotence can be caused by various diseases and other factors one of which is poor lifestyle. Indeed, most men diagnosed as being impotent have been noted to have lived a poor lifestyle that involves long-term use of hard drugs, cigarette smoking and excess alcohol intake among others. Such poor lifestyle habits introduce into the body dangerous chemicals and other substances that do not only interfere with smooth cell division but hinder smooth function of body organs including sexual health organs.

Healthy Diet

Sticking to a healthy diet provides for a lot of health benefits in your body. A healthy diet composed of whole grains, vegetables and fruits/nuts introduces into your body vital nutrients that your body requires for continued good health. These include minerals, vitamins, amino acids (fatty acids), water and energy. In particular, consuming such food stuffs as red pepper, bananas, onions and tomatoes goes a long way in enhancing your sexual health.

These are just some of the ways you can enhance your sexual health and possibly prevent being diagnosed as being impotent.

Few reasons why you should have sex during menstruation

Many people, both men and women, find sex during menstruation disgusting. But the truth is that there is no real reason for that, in fact sex during menstruation can sometimes be even better.

Many women during menstruation are more aroused and they say that sex during menstruation is better for them. The direct reason for this is the increased bleeding of the uterus. In addition, menstruation leads to certain hormonal changes in the body which causes increased desire for sexual intercourses in some women. Some experts suggest that the fact that many people think that sex during menstruation should not be practiced and that it is not appropriate to do it, can cause counter effect – people will be even more tempted to try it. Besides that, the vagina is constantly moisturized during menstruation making the penetration of the penis very easy. This makes men enjoy sex even more. Those men who don’t like foreplay, will find this situation very useful because they can skip the whole process.

During menstruation women usually feel cramps and tension in the stomach but with the help of an orgasm they can ease all types of pain. On the other hand, don’t rush to have sex if the cramps and the tension in the stomach are very strong because you won’t be able to enjoy sex at all. Doctors advise women that are suffering from menstrual pain or women that want to prevent menstrual pain to increase their physical activity and sex is of course more than good physical activity because it will relax the vaginal muscles. Furthermore, orgasm triggers release of endorphins, hormones that will temporarily remove pain and discomfort. Because of the more intensive squeezing of the uterus during sex, a greater amount of blood is released through the vagina. This means that in some cases sex during menstruation can shorten the number of days of menstruation.

Some women have menstrual periods that last up to seven days. This can be a very long period for couples that are used to have frequent sex and the real question is why they should wait. That’s why they should use the menstrual period to improve their techniques or try some new things that they’ve missed before. These new things can be practiced especially during the period of the day when the menstruation is stronger. Try some other types of sex and forget about vaginal sex. Try some new oral pleasures, maybe stimulation with the hands. Focus on hugging and kissing, and practice sex when the menstrual bleeding is not so intensive.

Another good reason for having sex during menstruation is the lower possibility of conception. Of course, this doesn’t mean that there is no chance of conception at all. The biggest risk of conception is during ovulation and that’s the period right between two menstruations. Most women don’t have ovulation during menstruation and that’s why the chance of conception during this period is minimal or in some cases impossible.