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What is Psychological Erectile Dysfunction and how to overcome them?

The psychological reasons for the problem of erectile dysfunction are responsible for about 10-20% of cases of erectile dysfunction. In most cases it is a secondary reaction to a primary cause. Psychological causes may be due to child abuse or related to bad sexual experiences and traumas. The main factors of psychological erectile dysfunction are the following:

Stress: It may be related to stress from work, stress for financial reasons, or even because of marital problems and discussions.

Anxiety: From the time that erectile dysfunction occurs first, the man is very worried that it may happen again. Thinking so will lead to “performance anxiety” – the fear of not satisfying your partner which causes erectile dysfunction almost without fail.

Feeling guilty: The man may feel guilty for not satisfying his partner.

Depression: The most common cause for erectile dysfunction is depression that affects a man both physically and psychologically. Depression can be the cause of erectile dysfunction even when a person feels comfortable in sexual situations. The medications and drugs that are prescribed to treat depression may also cause male impotence.

Low self-esteem: Self-esteem may be due to a previous episode of erectile dysfunction that makes men feel inadequate or due to other non-sexual trauma.

Indifference: Indifference may be the result of an age or diminished interest in sex, which may be the result of medications or due to marital problems between the couple.

Many men suffering from erectile dysfunction or impotency, has the problem for many years. This problem can worsen over time because psychological factors may begin to increase. In these cases, there is a strong tendency to avoid sexual contact and create feelings of anger, helplessness or disillusionment with the companion fails to inspire.

However, there are some exercises that the person suffering from this problem can do for his or her partner. These are divided into three steps:

a) First step: In order to rediscover, the couple should bet on strokes in different parts of the body except the genital region, to arouse the desires of the partners. This stage can last as long as necessary for the couple.

b) Second step: In this step, make more intimate contacts, being allowed to touch the genital region. This step can also last as long as necessary for the couple feel at ease.

c) Third stage: In this stage the penetration can occur, but must respect the time and mode of each partner.

When it comes to the conclusion that the patient is suffering from psychological erectile dysfunction, it is recommended a consultation with a sexologist should be done as quickly as possible for the person to start the treatments.

How to Eliminate Sex Problems?

Both men and women can suffer from various sexual disorders and problems. Luckily, these problems can be solved by using some of the many available methods.

Sexuality is a thing that concerns two individuals if they are in a relationship. That’s why you cannot leave your partner deal with these problems on his own. You should show support and complete understanding. Examine the causes of these problems together and try to eliminate these problems together. The most common sex problem in men is decreased sexual power or decreased potency as some people call it. In many cases these are psychological problems, which are reflection of the mental state of one individual. During the process of elimination of these disorders it is very important for the woman to take her role because she is the one that knows her man the best. If they cannot solve the sexual problem together, they should consider visiting an expert in this field, so don’t be too shy to speak with strangers about this problem because they are qualified for solving this kind of situations. Keep in mind that this is a much better option than waiting for the problem to resolve on its own. It is crucial to get the maximal support from your partner during this process.

If a man wants to prevent possible difficulties in his sex life, it is good for him to know his woman’s body in the same way he knows his body. This means that men need to know all the hidden spots that provide women pleasure. Men should not engage in sexual activity with women that they don’t know well and with women that they don’t feel close. In this way they can avoid possible fears that they won’t be able to satisfy the woman when they have sex for the first time. It is highly recommended for men to have sex only with women that they truly want. Sex should not be viewed as a hobby or just to fulfill some primeval instinct.

Another big mistake that men should avoid is to stop communicating with a woman with who he had bad sex. This can leave bad feeling and it can lead to decreased self-confidence. This is why you need to give second chance and have different approach in the sex act. The first sex is usually uncomfortable so on your second date try to focus on her erogenous zones, relax your partner and try to relax yourself. Avoid alcohol and try to be rested before you start the sex act.

If all these things can’t help you maybe it’s time to visit a sexologist. These professionals understand most of these problems and difficulties in sex life. The therapies must be attended by both partners or they won’t work. Visiting a sexologist is especially useful for couples who usually have difficulties to talk about intimate stuff. During these therapies you can find out new things and conclusions that were hidden deeply in your sub-consciousness.

Understanding Female Orgasm Difficulties

Many women cannot reach orgasm because of the simple fact that they don’t know what causes excitement in them. Despite the fact that modern women are fully sexually emancipated, many women still have trouble reaching proper orgasm. This condition is often medically described as anorgasmia and the reasons that lead to this state are virtually endless. The two main types of anorgasmic causes are physical and psychological causes. In this article we will try to talk about a cause that can be listed in both categories. With all those psychological and health causes there is a possibility that women cannot reach orgasm because they simply don’t know what turns them on. The reason behind this is their prejudices regarding sex or maybe they have not explored their body in a proper way yet.

A woman can become a good doctor for her own body if she finds the necessary time and courage to explore her own body and the reaction of the body to different types of stimulations. Of course, you can always consult your doctor but if you are already looking for help from qualified individuals then it is better to consult a sex therapist or a sexologist. These experts can lead individuals step by step until they reach their final goal. Of course, this means that women might have to answer some straightforward and unpleasant questions that need completely honest answers but this is the only for the expert to explore his patient’s sexuality. Sex therapist very often stand up for masturbation because one of the biggest advantages of masturbation is that the person practicing it will explore her body. Another specialist that can help you with this process is a bioenergetic therapist.

In order for one individual to get familiar with all the properties of sexuality he or she must explore the body in details, especially how the body reacts onerotic stimulations. Women can determine this by testing if they test which type of stimulation suits them the best – clitoral, vaginal stimulation or maybe direct penetration in the vagina. Some women need two types of stimulation in order to achieve orgasm. Some women need long foreplay while others find long foreplay boring and useless. Sex therapist suggest that women should explore their vaginas in details without any embarrassment. They can even masturbate in front of a mirror in order to see how the vagina reacts on different stimulations. A lot of celebrities are encouraging women to explore their bodies and love their reproductive system.

Finally, every woman should talk with her partner about the things that she finds stimulating. She should also talk about the things that make her reach an orgasm fast. In this way you can make the shyness, fears and all the unpleasant feelings that burden your sexuality go away. In these cases it is good to have a partner that knows when he needs to listen and a partner who is ready to explore your sexuality with your help.

Experts that can help you with your libido

Those who suffer from low libido will be surprised when they learn how many types of experts can help them solve their problem. Difficulties with libido deserve to get the same attention as any other health difficulties that we might have.

General Practitioner (Doctor)

When it comes to problems with libido you must visit your doctor (general practitioner), who can check the regularity of your heart beat and measure your blood pressure in order to determine if there are some signs that you are suffering from health problems. Your doctor should also examine your general physical condition, take note about the different types of medications that you use (if any) and in the end the doctor should discuss about your feelings, relationship with your partner and your general lifestyle. Your mental state is especially important because in many cases depression is the number one factor of low libido. Of course, the physical factors can also cause low sex drive as well as pain during sexual intercourse because they can lead to avoiding these sexual intercourses.

Bioenergetics therapist   

As we’ve concluded before, the problem of libido in men and women can be caused by both mental and physical factors. That’s why a quality bioenergetics therapist can be a good option for those who want to solve this problem. Although many people find this kind of therapy to be a little bit odd, the truth is that these therapies have high level of efficiency. Of course, we are not talking about some uncertified quasi-therapists. You need to find some therapist that has knowledge of alternative medicine and psychotherapy and someone who can apply that knowledge with the help of his experience. A good bioenergetics therapist will tell you if the problem with lack of sex drive is in you or in some external factors. Different therapists use different methods so don’t be surprised if some of them use hands-on, hands-off or some distant methods.

Sexologist

When we talk about sexual difficulties, sexologists act like investigators. There can be many reasons behind the lack of sexual desire like problems with erection, difficulties with reaching orgasm, problems with early ejaculation, problems with late ejaculation, problems with delayed ejaculation and many more. The role of the sexologist is to precisely determine where the problem is. However, many people avoid going to a sexologist and they have different reasons for this avoidance. Some of them find going to a sexologist uncomfortable while some of them don’t take their sexual problems seriously and they hope that the problems will go away by themselves.

Sex Therapist

When the sexologist or the general practitioner determines that the problems with your libido have their root in the mental sphere they can recommend visiting a specialized sex therapist. These therapists focus on discussing the problem with you and your partner. In some cases, individuals have problems in communication with their partner or maybe they have problems with maintaining long relationships and  the therapists is here to find the cause of the problem and solve it.