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Sex And Aging

If we judge but what we see on TV or the internet, sex is an exclusive activity just for young people. But the fact is that older people enjoy sex too. It is true that sex in that age is a little bit different compared to the sexual intercourse between young people but it can still be very enjoyable.

There is a saying that people are sexual beings, so it is quite normal that older people enjoy sex too. Since sex is one of the most important things in a relationship, it is good for couples no matter how old they are. Many people despite the process of aging continue to have regular sexual intercourses but in most of them this process can cause some changes (mainly some health issues). Some of them might experience health problems that might ruin their sex life, but they still practice some other forms of intimacy like cuddling or kissing. These acts can fill the sex gap that can cause depression and even more health issues. Interesting fact is that there are many people that are even older than 80 years and they still have sex.

The process of aging brings changes in both men and women. These changes sometimes affect the ability to enjoy sex.

We all know how women at a certain period in their lives experience menopause. But according to many researches many women after menopause enjoy sex even more because they know that they can’t pregnant any more. Speaking in general, women have less sexual problems as they grow older. However, many women have problems with vaginal lubrication after the menopause. This comes as a result of the lower levels of estrogen (hormone). Using artificial lubricants can solve this issue. There are few other physical changes that can also affect the sex life like changes in the flexibility, depth and width of the vagina, but they are usually not that big to ruin the relationship.

When it comes to men, aging and sex life, the biggest problem is impotence. Many men suffer from impotence after they enter the seventh decade of their lives. Even if they don’t have such problem, it takes a little bit more time to achieve erection. Probably the best way to solve this problem is longer foreplay and that’s why women need to be aware of the problem and try to solve it instead of being disappointed. Besides these problems, many old people have weak erections and the amount of ejaculate that they produce is much lower.

There are many things that old people can do to improve their sex life. For example try to understand that there is no such thing as normal sex. Even when people are young, every couple has a different style and type of sex life. The point of the sex is to keep your partner and yourself happy. Doctors can help older people and prescribe some medicines or try some herbal enhancement pill.

In most cases patience and proper communication are the best way to keep the sex life on high level, no matter how old you are. Senior citizen sexuality.

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The Link Between Sexuality And Fears

Sexuality is one of the aspects of human life that causes a lot of attention. The attitude toward sex, determines the way we perceive ourselves and others and it also helps us understand the meaning of life and death. That’s why sexuality is interesting for many scientific and non-scientific disciplines and recently there is a whole new discipline that deals with it called sexology.

In this article we will explain one problem that occurs often in sex, a problem that can interrupt the whole sexual relationship. We are talking about sexual fears.

Fear is a feeling that, in most cases, brings negative effects to every life activity. When we talk about sexual communication, fear can be fatal because it attacks the essence of good sexual relationship through different forms like – shyness, tension, discomfort and even jealousy and hate which are mostly driven by fears. Thus sexual communication between partners becomes a source of burden and bitterness, instead of pleasure and satisfaction, and they themselves may begin to lose their sense that they are actually sexual beings which eventually leads to loss of self-esteem and life optimism.

The following are the most common situations that occur because of fear:

–      Both partners are not discussing anything related to sex although they don’t have trouble communicating about anything else. The root of this problem goes in the childhood and the way one or both of the partners were raised. They probably never talked about sex with their parents.

–      Lack of communication between partners while they are having sex. This happens as a result of lack of confidence. The partners usually think that what they say might sound funny to the other partner and they will end up being ridiculed or mocked.

–      The fear of using “dirty” occurs when the partner thinks if spicing up the sex act with some of those words might be considered as vulgar by the other partner.

In addition to these situations, which are the most common situations, there are many more that are caused by fear of open sexual communication and can lead to hidden or open conflict between the partners. Over time, this leads to dissatisfaction and intimate separation of partners, they become more introverted and finally it can completely ruin the relationship.

Besides problems linked with sexual communication there are other types of fears like: lack of self-esteem when it comes to physical appearance, sexual performance and fear of failure, fear of exploitation, fear to express emotions etc.

History of sexuality and everyday practice clearly demonstrates the harmful effect of fear in sex life. We have presented the basic manifestations, while their combination leads to the classic sexual problems such as impotence, frigidity, premature ejaculation, masochism, etc.

Sexual problems caused by basic fears or a combination of these basic fears can be solved with a good sex therapist and strong will and desire of both partners. Without these fears sex life will become what it is supposed to be – one of the greatest sources of personal happiness and optimism.

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Open Relationship and Mutual Benefit Relationship

Issues to do with sex and relationship are indeed many to a point that it may seem difficult to understand all the issues involved. While there are relationships where sex is considered a normal feature, there are those relationships where sex is considered not right. This obviously depends on such issues as religion, culture and one’s moral believes among other issues. The best way to understand sex and relationship can however be easily understood by looking at the different types of relationships where sex is “legally” permitted.

Open Relationship

This is the first relationship that everyone establishes. It is a relationship where a young boy and girl who are not related for some unknown reason (although reasons have been given elsewhere) get fond of each other. Although both have nothing in their mind anything to do with sex, they are in the know that they are of the opposite sex. This type of relationship is in most cases established by some (not all) boys and girls in the 6 – 12 age bracket. This type of relationship is usually based on love, fun, trust and connection. However, the element of jealousy is usually evident when another boy or girl enters the picture.

Open relationship is however not limited to children. There are sexually mature teenagers, young adults and adults who are known to establish open relationships devoid of sex. Such is a platonic relationship usually based on fun, emotional connection and sincere attraction without any sexual desires. Like with children, element of jealousy is usually evident when a third party comes into the picture. While some sexually mature adults in this type of relationship end up dating and marrying, some simply let it go.

Mutual Benefit Relationship

This is referred to as mutual benefit relationship for lack of a better name. It is the most common type of relationship established by sexually mature adults. Although similar to open relationship in some respect, sex is usually the force behind mutual benefit relationship. Involved partners may also get involved in other social activities where they participate together.

Mutual benefit type of relationship is one of the most dangerous types of relationships, especially when those involved do not take any precautions. This is so because incidents of unwanted pregnancies due to unprotected sex and sexually transmitted diseases (including AIDS/HIV) infections are usually common. Jealousy and cheating is usually a common feature of this type of relationship. Indeed, most mutual benefit relationships are usually painful experiences with many ending up in serious disagreements.

Dating Relationship

This is what many consider as a serious and responsible relationship because of the likelihood of both partners settling down in marriage. The purpose of dating is usually for each partner to know the other better. A common feature of this type of relationship is going out together on a regular basis. Common outing locations do include theatres, restaurants, open parks and entertainment joints. Those dating are usually those who have made up their mind and need to understand their partners better before marriage proposal. Although some dating partners do endeavour to avoid sex as much as possible, some do indulge in sex.

Marriage Relationship

This is the type of relationship that most of those dating look forward to. This is a long-term relationship full of commitments and responsibilities. Although sex in this type of relationship is a right to both partners, that is normally not the case for most married partners. This is because of the many challenges that most couples experience, challenges that impact negatively on their sex life. However, couples that address their challenges do have a fulfilling sex life.

Although different cultures, religions and individuals at their personal level have different views regarding sex and relationship, there is always a common understanding; sex is sacred and is only permitted in a responsible relationship such as marriage relationship.

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How To Last Longer In Bed

Premature ejaculation is an act of achieving orgasm the moment you penetrate a vagina start thrusting and on the third or fifth thrust you cum without having planned for the orgasm to come that quick. Up to 60% of men who engage in sexual encounters suffer from premature ejaculation.

If you are among the 60%, you need not worry because there are natural things you can do and have better sex. All you have to remember is, when it comes to sex and stop premature ejaculation, you are the person in control and only you can control, monitor and plan the time you’ll have your orgasm. Below are a few tips to prevent premature ejaculation and having better sex.

Last-Longer

As teenagers and the early youthful stages, it’s usually very easy to get excited and at times the excitement becomes way too much to a point where our emotions run amuck. Immediately we start losing control over our emotions, we are only seconds away from achieving an orgasm.

At this juncture, the right thing to do to stop premature ejaculation is to keep our emotions in check. But since it is something that is easily said than done, below are a few tricks that will help you have better sex and prevent premature ejaculation.

The Pre-Fire

It’s common knowledge that every one of us lasts longer on the second round that we did last in the first round. If you can achieve a hard-on timely, you can work yourself on the first time and take advantage and ride your girl wild during the second time.

The best way to pre-fire without too much effort is during foreplay, as you work on your lady friend, rub one out without her noticing and by the time you are done with foreplay make-sure you regain your energy in full and make her dreams come true.

NB: Never try rushing through sex as this only causes you to re-load. Just take a chill pill, relax don’t overthink it and put all your concentration on her and this will help you last longer naturally without having to use artificial methods.

The Wonderful World of Condoms

There are many men that last longer by merely putting on a condom. But do not be fooled and double bag; this will only heighten your ejaculation. If you have to, use numbing lube. Please use the lube inside the condom.

It is a short term solution that will help you ride her like a porn star, unfortunately for you, you will not experience any physical pleasure.

Kegel Exercises

Yes, kegel exercises work on men too. Every day, squeeze the vein that passes below your scrotum and your anus, squeeze it and hold it for 30 seconds and then release it. Keep doing this at intervals of 15 minutes. This strengthens your stopping muscles and you’ll be able to hold back your ejaculation and last longer during sex. Now you can have better sex!

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Impotent Prevention

Impotence is one condition that all men dread. Being diagnosed as being impotent does spell doom for most men as such a diagnosis literally means poor sex health. Indeed most men declared with impotence do have their lives disrupted knowing that they are literally not in a position to engage in satisfactory sexual performance and the thought of inability to father their own children normally takes a toll on such men. It is not therefore surprising that most men diagnosed as being impotence do end up suffering from stress and depression. Some men who fail to receive counseling to cope with their condition do end up committing suicide.

Simply put, impotence is an erectile dysfunction (ED) problem that affects a good number of men around the world. Initially common with men above 40 years, more and more younger men are now diagnosed with the problem that is usually characterized by inability for a man to attain a strong penile erection necessary for satisfactory sexual performance. The problem can also manifest itself as premature ejaculation in case of men who experience some for of penile erection.

A number of physical and psychological factors can lead to one being declared impotent. Of all factors however, physical factors are the main causes. There are several ways through which one can avoid being declared impotent, ways that give assurance for good sex health.

Heart Health

A good number of men diagnosed as being impotent have been established to suffer from various types of heart ailments. Medical researchers have established that occurrence of such ailments as high blood pressure, high cholesterol and atherosclerosis increase a man’s risk of developing impotence and poor sex health in general. Interestingly, men diagnosed with ED are also at high risk of suffering from such heart ailments. Prevention of such heart ailments is therefore a very effective way to prevent impotence.

Hormonal Balance

Apart from neurological problems that have been linked to ED and poor sex health in general, hormonal imbalance has also been established to cause ED. Reduced level of testosterone and increased level of prolactin in particular is a major cause of impotence. Every man needs to ensure that his hormones are properly balanced to prevent erectile dysfunction.

Injury Prevention

Specific physical trauma and injuries that affect the pelvic region of the body and the spinal cord can easily lead to poor sex health and in extreme cases being declared impotent. Every man also needs to avoid certain surgical procedures unless they are very necessary. Such include fistula, orthopedic and prostate/rectal/colon surgical procedures. It must however be pointed out that vasectomy has never been linked to ED or poor sex health.

Medications

According to the USA’s national Institute of Health (NIH), long-term use of certain medications such as antidepressants, antihistamines and hypertension medications put a man at a high risk of suffering from poor sex life, which can also lead to impotence.

Mental Health

It is generally appreciated that poor mental health leads to poor sex health. Every man needs to avoid such conditions as high stress levels, depression and anxiety at all costs to be assured of a healthy sex life.

These are definitely just a few of the ways through which every man can prevent being diagnosed as impotent. The fact that younger men are now also diagnosed with ED makes it very necessary for younger men in particular to take necessary precautions.

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Types Of Contraception

Contraception is a method of preventing pregnancy by preventing the fertilized eggs to enter the uterus or preventing the eggs to be fertilized in first place.

There are several types of contraception and choosing the right one depends on several factors including current state of health, convenience and ease of use of contraception, side effects, risk factors and sometimes price. It is best to consult your doctor before you decide to use any kind of contraception.

It is good to remember that you can change the method of contraception any time you want. When you are trying to choose the type of contraception that is best for you take these things into consideration – how often do you have sexual intercourses, do you have a stable relationship, are you ready to make plans when it comes to sexual activity or do you want to use a type of contraception that does not depend on planning. Whatever your choice is you should use it properly in order to have good results.

Birth Control pills

Some birth control pills contain estrogen and progestin (so-called combined pills) while others contain only progestin.

Combined pills prevent ovulation. These pills are taken daily no matter how sexually active the woman is.

Progestin pills prevent pregnancy by thickening the cervical mucus making the eggs unreachable for the sperm. These pills have to be consumed daily just like combined pills.

Hormonal Injections

There are two types of hormonal injections that can be used as contraception.

Injection with progesterone is injected once every three months and prevents pregnancy in three ways: by preventing ovulation, stops the sperm from reaching the egg and prevents implantation of a fertilized egg in the uterus. The method is almost 100 percent effective. It is injected into the muscle in the first five days of menstruation while the rest of the injections are given over a period of three months. Side effects include irregular bleeding, headaches and weight gain.

Injection with progesterone and estrogen is injected once a month. This method is also highly effective. Possible side effects include changes in menstrual cycle and weight gain.

Intrauterine Device (IUD)

This device looks like a plastic box with a floss attached on it and it is inserted into the uterus with the help of a doctor. It prevents the entry of sperm inside the fallopian tubes. After insertion, the copper IUD (small plastic device with copper wrapped around its grounds) can remain in place for up to 10 year. All intrauterine devices must be removed by a doctor. Keep in mind that IUD does not protect against sexually transmitted diseases. Possible side effects include cramps, pelvic inflammatory disease, bleeding and infertility.

Male Condom

The male condom is applied on erected penis before entering the vagina. Male condom creates a physical barrier between the vagina and the penis and prevents pregnancy and diseases.

Female Condom

A female condom is one that you inserted into the vagina instead of penis. It surrounds the penis during the intercourse and serves as protection for vaginal and cervical infections and of course – preventing pregnancy. The female condom can be inserted up to 24 hours before intercourse and can be used only once. The female condom is stronger than the male condom and should not be used together with a male condom.

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The Causes And Treatment Of Infertility

Unfortunately pregnancy, maintenance of pregnancy and giving birth to a healthy baby can be very difficult for some couples. Average healthy woman has 20 to 25 percent chance to get pregnant during each cycle and more than 80 percent of fertile couples will successfully conceive a baby in a period of one year if they have regular unprotected sexual intercourses. Unlike them some couples are faced with lots of challenges when it comes to conception.

Infertility is considered to be an inability to conceive after more than a year of regular and unprotected sexual intercourse. It is estimated that just over 10 percent of women of reproductive age have trouble conceiving. Both female reproductive system and male reproductive systems can cause this unpleasant situation and sometimes the problem lies in both of the partners. After a specialist research and treatment of both partners nearly 35% of couples can conceive a baby in a period of two years.

But what are the main causes of infertility? It is still fully not clear why some people are infertile but for most of the people the causes can be identified. There are several causes why some women are infertile and these are some of them – ovaries do not produce eggs, endometriosis and pelvic inflammatory disease might damage or block fallopian tubes. Sometimes the mucus in the cervix can be “hostile” to the sperm. Unlike women where there can be several causes for infertility men are usually infertile because of the problems with their sperm quality.

In order to find the source of the problem you should take detailed physical exam and research family history. Obesity and menstrual irregularity will certainly be listed and the doctor will probably ask you about occupational hazards, eating disorders, stress, sexual intercourses, previous methods of contraception, physical activity and previous life habits like drinking alcohol, smoking and usage of medicaments. Blood tests may be conducted in order to investigate the known reasons for infertility: excessive levels of prolactin (a hormone that regulates the menstrual period), excessive levels or lack of thyroid hormone or excessive presence of androgens, such as testosterone.

If you have endometriosis, cysts or polyps, the doctor may refer you to a gynecologist or endocrinologist for evaluation and further examination.

When it comes to men patients, the doctor may suggest a sperm analysis. Low level of sperm or poor  sperm quality may be responsible for the situation.

If the doctor suspects that sexual problems may be the cause he may recommend therapy.

If the ovulation is a problem, there are medications that can stimulate ovulation easily. Disorders such as polycystic ovaries, endometriosis and pelvic inflammatory disease can be treated. Damaged fallopian tubes in some cases can be repaired by surgery and in vitro fertilization is another method that can be efficient in this situation.

It is very important to understand the monthly menstrual cycle because in that way you can know what days are the best for sexual intercourse and getting pregnant.

As we can see infertility is not something that can’t be treated, it just takes time and patience but the results will eventually come.

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Prevention And Protective Measures Against Chlamydia

Sexually transmitted diseases, including Chlamydia infection, are transmitted via sexual intercourse. This means that only persons that are sexually active are at risk. The chance to get a sexually transmitted disease is defined by the person’s sexual activity and behavior.

Each individual can protect its own health by avoiding risky sexual intercourses and by using protection (condoms) during those intercourses.

Having sex early in the relationship and huge number of sexual partners during lifetime certainly increase the risk of these diseases and their unpleasant consequences. Sometimes changing the partner means higher risk, because when you have sex with someone new that means that you are having sex with everyone with whom that person has slept before.

So how can we lower the risk? Permanent and mutually faithful relationship between two healthy persons and abstinence from sexual activities are the only two measures that are helpful in the process of protection against sexually transmitted diseases. In other cases, people can protect themselves by avoiding dangerous sexual behavior and by applying condoms during sexual activities.

Primary prevention based on education and behavioral change is the key to prevention and control of sexually transmitted infections, including Chlamydia infections. Changing behavior such as increased use of condoms, delaying the start of sexual life and reducing the number of sexual partners, in response to a campaign to prevent AIDS and sexually transmitted diseases, are associated with reduction of Chlamydia infections and complications.

These are few practical tips that will reduce the risk of sexually transmitted diseases:

–      Always use latex condoms from the very beginning of the sexual intercourse to the end no matter what type of sex are you practicing (anal, vaginal or oral)

–      Before engaging into sex with your new partner, try to estimate how risky he is.

–      If you use lubricant agents try those who are based on water, because those that are based on oil can damage the condom.

–      It is important to prevent any kind of damage on the skin and membranes in the genital area or the anus, which can lead to bleeding. These bleedings can cause entrance of some sexually transmitted diseases including AIDS.

Measures of protection against sexually transmitted diseases are the same measures that can be applied against Chlamydia. In cases where the patient has recovered from Chlamydia it is extremely important for the patient to do everything he or she can to prevent re-infection. Reappearance of Chlamydia increases the risk of infertility. Once again, people who have intercourse are strongly advised to use latex condoms during the whole intercourse.

Regular and proper use of latex condoms is the best method of protection against Chlamydia infections in sexually active persons. Do not forget that the risk of Chlamydia increases with the number of sexual partners. People who are at risk of infection with Chlamydia should consult a doctor and take medical exams to determine if any of the causes of sexually transmitted diseases are present. Risk factors include sexual activity during adolescence, multiple sexual partners, not using condoms and previous infection that can cause some other sexually transmitted disease.

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How Do Birth Control Pills Affect The Body?

The first birth control pills were produced around 50 years ago and they were received very well by the public, especially among couples that were afraid of unwanted pregnancy. However these pills can affect on almost everything on your body, from the muscles and the brain to the sex drive.

These birth control pills work in a way that deceives the body with the help of artificial female hormones like estrogen and progesterone. They prevent the appearance of ovulation or in other words they stop the release of eggs. The process sounds very simple but the truth is that all those hormones are making a lot more than prevention of pregnancy.

Recent studies have shown that birth control pills can affect appearance, but not that much as previously because the new types of pills are having low levels of hormones and they are significantly improved. This is a short list of things that are usually affected by birth control pills.

Bones

Some studies suggest that taking birth control pills can lower the density of the spine, especially if those pills have low levels of estrogen in them. Natural estrogen stimulates the growth of bone tissue and pills maintain the normal level of estrogen. What is still uncertain is what happens when someone decides to stop taking those pills. However there is no proof that birth control pills cause any diseases related to the bones such as osteoporosis.

Cancer 

The link between breast cancer and birth control pills is still unclear. Few studies have shown different results and some suggest that there is a link while others suggest that there is absolutely no link between breast cancer and these pills. When it comes to cancer you should always be aware of family history of the disease, to consult a gynecologist or other doctors that can help you prevent it. What is interesting is that some scientist claim that women who take birth control pills lower their chances of getting uterine and ovarian cancer.

Sex Drive

It is well known that birth control pills reduce the level of testosterone in the body. Luckily, some women have high level of testosterone and taking pills does not affect their sexual desire. If you think that your sex drive is lowered because of the pills, consult a gynecologist who will look for another way to protect you against pregnancy.

Increased Weight

In the past there were cases where birth control pills made women gain weight while taking them. The main cause for this was the high level of estrogen which prevented the kidneys to excrete water from the body and what is interesting is that they have also stimulated a growth of the breasts. Modern birth control pills have low level of hormones (including estrogen) and don’t cause weight gain. Besides that they are even more effective when it comes to prevention of pregnancy compared to the pills from the past.

Skin

These pills can help you with acne and pimples because of the artificial estrogen that they contain. The estrogen reduces the level of testosterone which is responsible for the production of sebum that clogs pores and causes the formation of pimples.

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Few Things About Intensive Menstrual Bleeding That Every Woman Should Know

Every woman occasionally experience menstrual bleeding that is more intensive than regular menstrual bleedings. Luckily, most often what they think is intensive is not intensive enough to be qualified as menorrhagia – abnormally intensive menstrual bleeding.

But how can we actually tell if the menstrual bleeding is intensive? The easiest method is to track how often you need to change the tampons or pads. If your menstrual bleeding is so intensive that you have to change the tampons or pads on every couple of hours or your menstruation lasts for a week or longer than you might be suffering from menorrhagia and these are the most common causes of abnormally intensive menstrual bleeding:

Fibroid tumor of the uterus

The most common tumors are so-called benign (non-cancerous) tumors and they usually occur in women that are in their thirties or forties. The reason for the appearance of uterine fibroid tumors is still unknown, but what is clear is that there is some kind of connection with estrogen levels. There are several types of surgery that can remove the fibroid tumors of the uterus (ablation, myomectomy, hysterectomy and uterine artery embolization). Progesterone was very successful in the treatment of this tumor in some women. If the situation is not very serious, the doctors usually recommend waiting until the menopause when the tumor is cut and pulled without any difficulties.

Lupus

This is a chronic inflammatory and autoimmune disease that can appear on several parts of the body, especially the skin, joints, blood and kidneys. The cause of lupus is unknown, but some researchers believe that the genetic predisposition is the main factor for it and that things such as environmental factors, infections, stress, hormones, UV exposure and certain types of antibiotics can cause the formation of lupus.

Uterus Cancer

This type of cancer affects the inner part of the uterus (the endometrium). It occurs when abnormal cells begin to grow uncontrollably and can also affect other organs. This type of cancer usually affects older women. It is treated with hysterectomy or chemotherapy.

Cervical cancer

This type of cancer appears when cells of the cervix begin to grow uncontrollably. More than 20 % of cases of cervical cancer are caused by the human papillomavirus (HPV). It can be treated by removing the affected body parts or with extensive chemotherapy.

Cervical polyps

Cervical polyps are small growths that are usually benign and appear on the surface of the lining of the cervix. The cause of cervical polyps is still not clear but it is thought that they occur under the influence of increased estrogen levels or blocked blood vessels of the uterus. These polyps occur in women older than 20 years who have already given birth.

Hormonal Imbalance

Hormonal imbalance during puberty or menopause is the most common cause of intensive menstrual bleeding. During puberty it occurs after the first menstrual period and several years before a woman enters the menopause. The level of hormones in the body significantly affects the entire cycle including the very period. It can be treated with therapy and medications.