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Low testosterone levels and sex drive

Male sex drive is affected by many things, but low levels of testosterone are one of the main reasons for low sex drive and this situation can cause a lot of trouble in the sexual relations. Furthermore, if people don’t react timely it can lead to total loss of sexual interest and problems with erection. The good news is that there are a lot of things that you can do for prevention and treatment when it comes to testosterone level.

Researchers have not yet established the direct link between the level of testosterone and sex drive but they have come to a conclusion that with the process of aging men lose their interest in sex and at the same time their levels of testosterone are getting lower. This is a completely natural process. The period when the libido is strongest is during the teenage period and in the 20s and after that it slowly fades. However not all men are the same and every man feels different sex drive. In addition it is not only the nature that can affect the libido, the lifestyle is also very important – level of stress, diet, sleep problems etc. That’s why we can’t talk about “normal” sex drive. Furthermore the levels of testosterone are not always a direct reason for loss of sex drive. There are many men with low levels of testosterone that have regular sexual intercourses. Nevertheless it is confirmed that with every change in the levels of testosterone men feel a lack of sex drive. Besides testosterone levels there are many other things that affect the sex drive like stress, diseases, depression etc.

Although many people think that erectile dysfunctions are closely related with the levels of testosterone that’s wrong. These two things are linked in small number of cases. Erectile dysfunctions are caused by a disease called atherosclerosis (a disease that affects the muscle arteries). Because of the damage caused on these arteries, the blood vessels that supply the penis cannot expand and cannot provide high blood flow. At the same time, lack of testosterone is very often accompanied with atherosclerosis and that’s why men should check if they are suffering from both of them. Lack of testosterone is also linked with few other conditions that eventually lead to erectile dysfunction such as obesity, diabetes or/and cardiovascular syndrome.

Luckily there are some very effective solutions for this problem. One of these highly effective solutions is a testosterone therapy, that has a very positive impact on the sex drive and at the same time on the sexual life overall. Keep in mind that before you start using this therapy that long term effects and possible side effects have not yet been fully researched, so maybe it is best to use it as a short term solution. Another option that you can consider is bringing changes in your life and starting to live a healthier life – get rid of the tobacco, stop drinking, be careful with your diet, start exercising and the results will come.

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Sex And Diabetes

When people find out that they are suffering from diabetes, sex is probably the last thing on their mind. Diabetes is a very serious disease and patients that have diabetes have to think about a lot of things like their diet, weight, sugar level etc. Because of that many people put their sex life aside but that is wrong because sex can be very helpful when it comes to health. Of course diabetes can make your sex life worse but is up to you to find a way to improve the sex life and the good thing is that there are many ways to make it better.

Because of the disease many people have lower blood circulation in the genital area, which means less sensibility and excitement in that area. According to few researches, diabetics have trouble reaching orgasm because of that and because they often experience changes in their mood. Certain things that you found interesting and exciting can now be useless. The feeling that you had when you had orgasm might not be the same. This has nothing to do with the attraction between you and your partner and reaching a strong orgasm might be a difficult task. That’s why you need to find something that you have never tried before, something that will stimulate you in order to achieve stronger orgasms. Don’t be disappointed because this quest might last for awhile.

During this whole process, don’t forget to measure the level of sugar in your blood. In this way you will feel more confident. Keeping the right level of sugar in your blood will certainly improve your sex life. In order to achieve that level you should take care about your diet. Increase the intake of vegetables, fruits and cereals and stay away from carbohydrates.

Another thing that you should take care of is pH balance in your vagina, because increased levels of sugar in the blood can damage this balance and cause vaginal infections. Increased pH levels eliminate the bacteria that keep your vagina healthy and without them all sorts of inflammation, fungus and infections occur.

Exercising is something that can help you lessen the symptoms of diabetes and improve your sex life. Exercising every day for 30 minutes can do miracles. It will strengthen your heart, improve endurance and flexibility and most importantly increase the blood flow in all parts of your body including the genital area. You don’t have to perform some intensive exercises; a simple walk in the park can do the job at the beginning.

Some say that the mind is the most important sexual organ. The way you think can affect your sexual life, sex drive and arousal. Instead of thinking about your disease and thins that you need to do, focus on your partners’ scent and movement. During the sexual intercourse, think only about that and nothing else. If you can’t focus start talking with your partner, tell him (or her) what you want or ask him/her what he wants. In this way you will calm your thoughts and release your fantasy.

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What Is Vasectomy?

Many men don’t know what vasectomy is and many have heard about it but don’t know exactly how it works. Some of them think that it is a process for complete removal of the testicles; some think that it is a process that will deny the experience that leads to an erection and orgasm while others think about it as a simple removal of manhood. These assumptions are completely wrong. Vasectomy is a medical intervention that permanently ensures men that they won’t be part of any unwanted pregnancy. It is actually a form of contraception that should be taken only when you are sure that you don’t want children. In many countries this procedure can be performed on patients that are older than 30. The procedure is very simple and it is finished only after a few minutes and the good thing is that there are almost no side effects. The surgeon simply redirects, or gets the vas deferens ligated to be more precise, which stops the sperm from leaving the scrotum. Ejaculation during orgasm is still present just like before the surgery but the sperm now doesn’t contain seed that is essential for reproduction.

When a man starts to think about vasectomy it is a little bit different because first of all examinations are a lot more difficult for men compared to women. Women get used to gynecological examinations after their first sexual intercourse or even before. They are not afraid of the examination itself. When it comes to medical procedures of male genitalia the situation is different. Many men don’t even want to talk about it. It is certainly good to know that not every female contraception (designed just for women) brings only positive effects. Hormonal protection (birth control pills) for example can cause a lot of physical complications like migraine, breast cancer etc. while sterilization or intrauterine devices are much more complicated methods compared to vasectomy. Besides that these methods can cause severe inflammation of the womb, discomfort and bleeding during sex and of course unpleasant feeling for the partner. There are cases with intrauterine implants where a man can feel the implant with his penis. In all these cases it is certainly very important to talk about the various options that are available. Condoms are of course the simplest method.

Another not so well known fact is that vasectomy is a reversible process (in 95% of the cases) which is not the case with female sterilization (irreversible process). Of course before any of these two procedures take place the patient should be completely certain that he or she doesn’t want children. Since it is possible for men to change their mind, doctors can perform a procedure that is called vasovasostomy and procedure that can reconnect the seminal vesicles. However this procedure is not always successful and there is a chance that the patient will remain infertile. The process of vasovasostomy is an expensive and difficult and that’s why patients are advised to think about both vasectomy and vasovasostomy carefully.

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Self-Examination Of Genital Organs

Self-examination of genital organs is a simple examination that you can do it on your own in order to determine some symptoms that can indicate presence of sexually transmitted diseases. Of course this doesn’t mean that you can do a diagnosis. What you find doesn’t necessary have to be a sign of some disease, but it is a good sign that you have to visit the doctor and get some advice. Sometimes these signs disappear but this doesn’t mean that you are cured. Keep in mind that if you had sexual intercourse without protection you had sex with all the people that had sex with your partner. Even if you didn’t have sex with anyone it is good to know that sexually transmitted diseases can be transferred without sexual intercourse by touch or blood contact.

Self-examination of male sexual organs begins with examination of the mouth of the urethra on the glans penis. In case you are not circumcised pull the foreskin down. Carefully look the glans and see if there is any redness, bumps, blisters or wounds. After that see if there are any warts (they appear like the warts on other parts of the body). Those who are not healed on time can grow up and start looking like cauliflower creations. If you notice any of these things you should go to your doctor. Furthermore, check your penis to the root and look for the same things that were mentioned previously. When you get to the root, separate the pubic hair and check your skin underneath. For the places that are hard to reach use a mirror. After that gently touch your testicles and see if there is any swelling or soreness. Sexually transmitted diseases can cause sharp pain and burning sensation during urination accompanied with discharge. In these cases you must visit your doctor as soon as possible.

When it comes to women, self-examination starts from the mons pubis down. Using a mirror is very helpful. First of all separate the pubic hair. Carefully look for blisters, redness, lumps and wounds. After that look for any warts that look no different than the warts on the other parts of the body. Ones that are not treated can cause a lot of trouble and that’s why you must visit a doctor if you find any of these signs. After that, examine the fold of the skin around the clitoris. Look if there are any of the signs mentioned before. Continue with the labia and around the mouth of the urethra. Deeper self-examination is not advised. Of course there can be other changes in the vagina that can take place deep in the vagina or in the womb but these areas should be examined by a doctor. Another sign of possible sexually transmitted disease presence could be a vaginal discharge, pain and burning sensation while urinating and a constant feeling of itching. If you are sexually active visiting the doctor should be a regular practice because it is the only way to prevent these diseases.

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How To Increase Sexual Excitement

People that are in a relationship for a short time are usually crazy about each other; all the time spent together is fun, intense and beautiful. But after a while the excitement is gone although it looks like the couple is in love even more than before.

Excitement that we feel at the beginning of the relationship is caused by the exciting feeling of unknown and unexpected because the person that we don’t know that well, but looks beautiful to us, can easily surprise us. Of course the routine that comes after awhile has its benefits; because we must admit that the excitement and stress that we feel at the beginning can be devastating for our health if it lasts for years. This doesn’t mean that people should not do something different occasionally in order to rise the levels of adrenaline in their systems. These are some of the things that you can do to increase the sexual excitement in your relationship

  • Fear can be helpful

When we experience fear the levels of adrenaline raise and this state can be compared to sexual arousal. The symptoms are the same – the heart is beating faster, we sweat and almost all our senses are activated. It is no wonder why people practice extreme sports in order to feel alive. Controlled fear is excellent for good sex, so if you don’t like extreme sports try something other that can boost your adrenaline – visit some theme park or something else but most importantly do that with your partner.

  • Be bold

Younger people enjoy swimming naked during night time when there are no people around but there is a possibility that someone might see that. The excitement that anticipation brings is amazing.

So use your imagination and try something similar even if you are older, take nude photos of your partner while you are in an elevator, begin the foreplay at the cinema etc. People often forget how this kind of “fooling around” can give the mind a sexual stimulation.

  • Reveal all the secrets

People become closer when they talk about the most intimate things about them and even if you are with the same partner for a long time there are always things that you forgot to tell or maybe you were to scared to tell. This could be an excellent game of revealing secrets; you should start first by revealing one secret then it would be your partner’s turn. Those secrets don’t have to be something important; a simple small lie can do the job.

  • Recreate your first date

You probably remember many details of the day when you first met your partner. These memories alone bring pleasant feeling every time. So maybe it’s time to recreate that first date. Try going to the same place where you first met each other and start acting like you don’t know each other. Introduce yourself and start flirting. This role paying is very interesting and can lead to real eruption in your bed!

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How To Reach A Perfect Orgasm

According to some researches women need no longer than 20 minutes of manual or oral stimulation until they reach an orgasm.

The secret of orgasm most often lays in finding the right trigger. The muscle contractions that give the well known pleasant feeling can sometime happen spontaneously during the sexual intercourse but in most cases in order to reach the climax women need special atmosphere (ambience light, pleasant music), special body position or some specific technique (like oral stimulation of the clitoris). But even if all these factors are in the game it doesn’t necessarily mean that a perfect orgasm will be achieved.

First of all you have to pay attention to the foreplay. All that kissing, cuddling and exchange of touches activates our nervous system that sends messages about the feeling of pleasure throughout the body. At this point you should feel completely relaxed and devoted to the act without thinking about anything else. The best thing to do is to focus on a certain sense like smell or taste and think only about that.

When you are aroused your nerves carry a message to your brain that says that it is time to increase the blood flow in the erogenous zones and as a result of that the genital area is getting a little bit swollen and moisturized. The more blood in that area the more sensitive you become which results in a real circle of pleasure. Some researchers claim that women need around 10 to 20 minutes of manual or oral stimulation to achieve orgasm. Most of the women try to shorten that period because they think that their partner might not be interested after that. The truth is that men enjoy when their partner is aroused and reaches orgasm.

As we have mentioned before in order to achieve a perfect orgasm the position of the body is very important. Once you feel very aroused it is time for a penetration. While he is on top of you, find a position where the basis of his penis is in the same line with your clitoris and wrap your legs around him. The intercourse is now ready to proceed. Occasional finger stimulation on the clitoris performed by your partner is also an option.

In the moment you reach orgasm your brain releases a wave of oxytocin. This is a neurohormone that passes through the muscles of the pelvis and causes a series of rhythmic contractions that last for few seconds. If you practice Kegel exercises you can make those contractions last longer.

While you are having sex, don’t forget that proper breathing can be very helpful too. Never hold your breath and breathe freely – shallow and rapid breathing will produce more powerful vaginal contractions.

Faking orgasms is not an option. Although it might work sometimes it is better to say that you want some changes instead of faking orgasms. You will make your partner feel like he has found the perfect way to please you and he will try to repeat that procedure every time. The best way is to talk with your partner and find a way to have better sex.

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Does Sex Help Maintain A Relationship?

Sex is said to be the most important part of anybody’s life. It plays a very vital role in a normal life of anyone. Hence, peak sex is very crucial part of a fully satisfied married life. It is the sex which is responsible to make the flame of old relationships burning. One of the best ways to do it is sexual intimacy. Couples can express their emotions verbally. But there is no better idea to express feelings than physical intimacy. It helps very much to sustain a healthy relationship.

Why Sex is Important Part of Relationship?

Your love and faith can make your partner feel a lot confident and better if you have sex with her/him. This is one of the main reasons why it is important. Couples who have sex regularly tend to have better and deeper bonding than those who don’t. This is because of the hormones released during episodes of lovemaking. These hormones play a vital role in making emotional and spiritual bonding between the couple and their love for each other gets into the deepest and highest level. Both emotionally and physically, sex helps strengthens the feeling of love and attachment between the couples. So, it is very important to include the ingredient of sex in your love life because it can reflect your care, love and affection.

Have Sex to Stay Connected

Having a passionate sex doesn’t just refer to physical satisfaction. It also helps couples to involve in each other intimately. While having sex, all the aspects of a person are bare-naked and vulnerable. During intercourse, a couple can easily and deeply share their feelings in each level because sex connects two true lovers like no other. Once a couple truly understood this concept, they can get into different levels of communication and sex helps them to do so. Thereby, it helps both of them to get closer with no words. One can do sex for pleasure, fun, relaxation, social status and relaxation. All in all, sex is vital to sustain a relationship.

Cons of Relationship without Sex

Couples often go through this problem. Relationship without sex results in never-ending cycle of yelling and abuse matches. Sexless life leads to frustration, depression, rejection, self-doubt, reduced self-esteem and problem in focus. Even worse, sexless life also leads to separation and broken homes.

Bottom Line

To build a healthy relationship, sexual intimacy helps married life and relationships last longer.

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Sex Toy Pleasure Balls

Have you ever taken time to think over what the pleasure balls girls insert in themselves are for? Are the pleasure balls meant to make them feel more fulfilled while having sex? Well here is the truth:

The pleasure balls, which girls like inserting in themselves serve a variety of different sexual functions. For starters, pleasure balls, (Kegel Balls and Ben Wa Balls) are circular balls that are inserted in the vagina.

Mostly the balls are either one or two and have hollow chambers and on the inside have weighted balls. When the balls get shaken or stimulated by impact, the smaller weightier balls inside create vibrations.

When you take the sexual health perspective, you will understand that these balls (pleasure) are loved by women for their Kegel exercises practice.

Kegel Exercises, Whatever Do You Mean?

Kegel are muscular contraction exercises done by both men and women but for the women they help them in strengthening the pelvic floor muscles together with the pubococcygeus (PC) muscles. These exercise routines help women develop tight vaginas, help their bodies become more orgasmic and when they achieve orgasm it comes out stronger and extremely powerful.

Ben Wa Balls

When you look at these balls from a point of pleasure, you will see that they have been designed to help in the increased sensation inside the lady’s vagina and G-spot when sexing exercises go on. Foreplay moves such as; padding, spanking and flogging makes the balls provide desired pleasure.

There are other women who on the other hand enjoy the insertion and the removal and also the feeling of fullness inside their vaginas.

Men and Pleasure Balls

There is one problem that as men we always fail to understand, passion and sex, you might have mastered a lot of sexual routines and introduced these routines in your sexual escapades with your lady. As much as it is all good and dandy, there shall come a time when the sexual positions will become routine and somehow mundane for your woman.

Sad but true, so to help your woman always experience satisfaction every time you guys have sex, concentrate on the oral sex and not necessarily penetration. Having learnt the use of pleasure balls above, you are now in the perfect spot to help your woman experience orgasm and great orgasm that will make her open wider and invite you deep inside more.

Introduce the topic of pleasure balls and if she’s into it she start busing these balls to experience great and wonderful sexual sessions that will bring you two closer together than before!

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Food And Sperm Quality

In the past few decades scientists have come to a conclusion that the sperm quality in men is getting lower and as a result of that there are more problems with fertility.

Many researches were done and almost all of them point to food as one of the reasons for this decline in quality. The link between food and sperm quality was confirmed, so the researchers have tried to see how different food intake (especially vitamins) influences the sperm quality.

The results showed that men who consumed more vegetables and fruits had better sperm quality, because in this way they were taking more vitamins, fibers, folic acid and less fat and proteins. Men who didn’t care about their diet had sperm with lesser quality.

The improvement was noticed in many aspects like mobility, concentration and morphology of sperm in men who had diet rich in lutein, beta carotene, lycopene, selenium and vitamins that are usually found in fruit like watermelon for example.

But how does exactly food affect the sperm quality? Well, first of all proper diet is important because with certain food you can regulate your blood pressure and, as you probably know, high blood pressure is one of the biggest problems when it comes to potency in men. Furthermore, problems with prostate, bad circulation, higher levels of cholesterol can all affect the sperm quality and that is why it is important to take care about what and when you eat. A glass or two of some alcoholic beverage doesn’t directly affect the potency but over a certain period of time, alcohol can lead to high blood pressure. The same thing applies for food rich in fat and red meat too.

There are certain foods that can improve the quality of sperm and it is always a good idea to consume them even if the quality of sperm is not in your focus because they are good for the health in general.

We have mentioned watermelon previously as one of those fruits. Watermelon and melon too, are fruits that include a lot of antioxidants in them. Antioxidants are the best way to fight free radicals in our bodies. Besides antioxidants, watermelons contain substances that researchers describe as natural Viagra, because they affect blood vessels in a similar way and they increase sexual desire.

Beans are also known as food that can help the quality of sperm. The best beans are peas and green beans that directly affect the levels of cholesterol and make those levels lower. They are also helpful against high blood pressure which is in a direct correlation with the potency. People who consume these beans daily can lower their blood pressure for 10%.

Besides beans, berries are very useful too. Berries like strawberry, blueberry, raspberry or cranberry contain antioxidants in great amounts. Just like watermelons they are excellent in defending our bodies from free radicals. Berries can also prevent different types of damages of the arteries.

These are some of the foods that can improve the sperm quality but if you want to notice a real difference you need to change your whole diet.

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Sexual Problems In Women

Having sexual problems means that sex is not an satisfying and positive experience for those who practice it. When it comes to women, most common sexual problems include lack of interest in sex, orgasmic problems and/or arousal problems. Some women experience pain during the sexual intercourse.

Many women have sexual problems in some period of their lives. However some women have a permanent problem. In order for the symptoms to become problem they need to start to interfere your normal sexual life. Of course there is no such thing as general normal sex life. What is normal for one person is not normal for another when we talk about sex. Another thing to consider is that our bodies are changing with the process of aging and we can’t expect to have the same shape of our organs or the same sex drive.

So, we can conclude that women’s sexuality is very complex. When there is a problem in the emotional or physical aspect of life, you can expect sexual problems to appear.

Some physical causes include pain from injuries, medical conditions such as arthritis or diabetes or various problems connected with hormonal balance.

Emotional causes can be as bad as physical cause and some of them are – stress, depression, anxiety, unhealthy relationship, sexual trauma etc.

The process of aging can cause sexual problems both from emotional and physical aspect.

Taking certain types of medications can also cause these problems. These medications affect some of the vital functions of our body that are needed for uninterrupted sexual intercourse like blood pressure for example.

The symptoms are easy to spot and they usually include lack of sex drive, problems with arousal, inability to achieve orgasm and pain during the sex.

Women often recognize a sexual problem when they notice a change in their sexual desire or satisfaction during the sexual intercourse. When this happens, it is necessary to look at what is happening in the body and in life in general. Things like instable relationship, lack of time for intimacy and relaxation, painful memories about previous sexual intercourses or some non-sexual disease can all change the level of sexual desire and ruin the satisfaction. Whatever is the cause for this situation; women should detect the problem and try to solve it. Visiting a doctor can be very helpful and although some women might find these conversations about sexual life uncomfortable keep in mind that doctors are professionals and they can help you.

When the cause for these problems is located it is easier to treat them. Sometimes there can be more than one cause for these sexual problems. The good thing is that almost all of them can be treated successfully.

Successful treatment requires a high level of trust and confidence between you and your doctor. Ideally, you and your partner will be able to talk openly about sexual issues. Some causes of sexual problems, such as medical conditions, may not be within your control. But the emotional and psychological states are equally important.

That’s why you need to take care of your overall physical and emotional health. Don’t be afraid to talk with your partner about your problems. Try to find methods to relax. Enjoy the tenderness and intimacy and remember that everything you hear and read about other people’s fantastic sex may not be true.